I think there are many people who like kids just as long as they don’t scream, don’t throwtantrumsand don’t ruin the time that you planned to spend calmly. Probably most of us know how it feels to share a plane with a screaming kid or have somebody running around and screaming when you are trying to have lunch.
Or when you are having a birthday party – one Reddit user asked hisparentsnot to invite his 5-year-old nephew to his birthday due to knowing it was going to bring trouble. Well, spoiler alert – they insisted that everybody participate, which caused quite a bit of chaos, to say the least.
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At birthday parties, you would think that people come to meet the celebrant, but, well, not always
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Teen shares that he had his birthday party where everything was going great until the arrival of his 5 Y.O. nephew, whom he didn’t want there in the first place
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He added that his nephew is not well behaved, but his parents insisted that their grandkid be there and if something went wrong, they would take responsibility for it
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Well, his nephew threw the birthday cake on the floor because he didn’t get to blow out the candles and the teen’s brother compensated his parents for it
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A few days later, after his parents scolded him for turning down dinner with his brother, he flatly told them that they are responsible for ruining his birthday and not his brother
Well, the nephew got upset that he didn’t get to blow out the candles and threw the birthday cake on the floor. OP shared that he was disappointed, but not surprised, and his brother compensated his parents for the birthdaycake. Now, a few days later, the teen’s brother gave him a call inviting him for an apology birthday dinner, but OP assured him that it was no big deal and he had plans anyway, so he couldn’t attend.
However, when his parents found out that he declined the invitation andscoldedthe teen for making his brother feel even worse, he bluntly told them that it was their fault and he doesn’t blame his brother for the ruined birthday party.
Community members backed up the teen and gave him the ‘Not the A-hole’ badge. “NTA. Your parents clearly knew what they were doing and invited your nephew despite your warnings to not do so,” one user wrote. “They care more about seeing their grandchild than about you, your happiness and comfort. NTA,” another added.
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“I think the parent/carer knows their child best and should assess each invite to determine whether it might be suitable or not or to act accordingly,” sharedVicki Broadbent,Bored Panda’s parenting expert. “For example, if your toddler is shouting through a wedding ceremony, do move out of that space somewhere your child can calm down so you’re not ruining the day for others.”
Now, speaking about how parents can balance the desire to include all family members in social gatherings while also ensuring the event remains enjoyable for everyone involved, Vicki emphasized that if those hosting the party inform everyone invited that their policy is no young children, for example, that is fair. “As long as they stick to that, no one should feel offended.”
Finally, it’s quite common that a toddler’s behavior becomes challenging during a party, thus Vicki shared that parents have a duty of care towards their child, to keep them safe. “Taking them out of the room and helping them calm down is the best start,” she emphasized. “If they are overstimulated, consider taking them home. Our children, their needs and their behavior constantly evolve, so we must be responsive to that and make sound judgments when it comes to accepting invites.”
The parenting expert added that parents should always be prepared with snacks, toys, books and games too. “Society as a whole should be more accepting and understanding of children.”
“Tantrums are a completely normal part of young children’s development,” Vicki noted. “I often feel like saying to those clearly judging parents with crying babies and toddlers to try and remember that they too were young once.” But what do you guys think about this story? Share your thoughts below!
Redditors shamed the parents for making a promise and not keeping it
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