When it comes toweddingplanning, it’s up to the couple to decide what their priorities are. Some might opt for a backyard reception, so they have thousands to spend on excellent catering. And others might forgo booking a band to spend more on a great photographer. The bride and groom call the shots about where their wedding funds go. But what about when parents offer to helppayfor their special day? Do they get to have a say in how their money is spent?
This parent offered to pay for their son’s wedding to keep him out of debt
Image credits:LightFieldStudios/Envato elements (not the actual photo)
But they changed their mind after realizing how much his fiancé planned to spend on her wedding dress
Image credits:Public_Reflection_50
Later, the parent provided some more details about the situation
“The extent of parental contribution can vary wildly; some might generously cover the entire cost, while others might contribute to specific aspects”
Image credits:Asad Photo Maldives/Pexels (not the actual photo)
While your wedding day is supposed to be one of the most magical, memorable days of your entire life, it can easily be the most expensive as well. According toForbes, the average wedding in 2024 costs $33,000, which is more than the average price of3 semestersat a public university in the United States.
Image credits:Karolina Grabowska/Pexels (not the actual photo)
“It’s entirely possible to find a stunning dress on a budget”
Shay also shared a little wedding story that Bespoke Bride covered a few months ago. “We attended a wedding where the groom’s parents covered the venue and catering, while the bride’s parents paid for the dress and floral arrangements. The couple themselves only paid for the honeymoon and photography. This mixed contribution not only spread the financial load but also brought a sense of shared effort and collaboration, which was symbolic of the union itself,” the expert noted.
According to Shay, it’s best to have an open conversation with your parents (or in-laws) early on if they’ll be contributing to wedding costs. “Set expectations, discuss budgets, and avoid any surprise moves. Remember, it’s not about the cha-ching; it’s about celebrating love. If you don’t have a budget in mind yet – read our post which also has a freewedding budget spreadsheetyou can download,” the editor shared.
And when it comes to the importance of awedding dress, Shay says it’s without a doubt “the pièce de résistance of bridal fashion.” But the price of a wedding dress can range from a few hundreds to several thousand dollars, the expert explained, and we’ll all have a different idea of what’s considered a reasonable price based on our personal values and financial circumstances.
“Personally, I believe that the value of a wedding dress lies in how it makes the bride feel,” Shay told Bored Panda. “If spending $10,000 on a dress is within your means, and it brings you immense joy, go for it! However, it’s also entirely possible to find a stunning dress on a budget. One of the most beautiful weddings I attended featured a bride in a vintage dress she found at a thrift store for under $200. She looked absolutely radiant, and the dress had a unique charm that no off-the-rack gown could replicate.”
If you’re on a tighter budget, Shay recommends shopping sample sales, renting a dress, buying a slightly used one, or making your own DIY gown. “Websites like Stillwhite and Nearly Newlywed offer gently used designer gowns at a fraction of the original cost,” the expert says. “The symbolism here is clear: a wedding dress is not just about the price tag but about the story and emotion it carries. It reflects the individuality and resourcefulness of the bride. If you’re up to making your own dress – check out our post about making your ownDIY wedding dress.”
“It’s crucial to set a realistic budget and prioritize what elements of the wedding are most important to you”
Image credits:Leah Newhouse/Pexels (not the actual photo)
Shay also noted that planning a wedding on a budget is where creativity truly shines! “Firstly, it’s crucial to set a realistic budget and prioritize what elements of the wedding are most important to you,” the editor shared. “Here are a few strategies I’ve seen work wonders: Consider non-traditional venues like parks, community halls, or even a friend’s beautiful backyard. These can be significantly cheaper than dedicated wedding venues.”
Keeping theguest listintimate is also wise, Shay says. “Fewer guests mean lower costs for catering, invitations, and favors. Plus, it creates a more personal and cozy atmosphere.” And when it comes to decor, don’t be scared to DIY. “We love DIY at Bespoke Bride and have a HUGE section dedicated only forWedding DIY inspiration,” Shay noted. “Maybe it’s time for you to embrace your inner craftsperson? DIY projects for centerpieces, invitations, and even wedding favors can save a lot of money. Plus, they add a personal touch to the celebration.”
Couples can also cut costs when it comes to attire and photography. “As mentioned earlier, explore affordable options for wedding attire. Bridesmaid dresses and groomsmen suits can also be rented or purchased during sales,” Shay shared. “Hire a budding photographer or look for package deals that offer coverage for just the ceremony and key reception moments, rather than the entire day.” For even more creative ideas, check outBespoke Bride’s postabout unique ways to plan a wedding on a budget.
Many readers took the parent’s side and agreed that they shouldn’t be funding the wedding
And some called out the parent for going back on their word
Progress:Ic check outlinedDialog closeIc_smileIc_mehNextNextBackIc check outlinedDialog closeIc_smileIc_mehThanks! Check out the results:View alternative results:0
Progress:Ic check outlinedDialog closeIc_smileIc_mehNextNextBack
Progress:
Ic check outlinedDialog close
Ic_smileIc_meh
NextNextBack
Next
Back
Ic check outlinedDialog closeIc_smileIc_meh
Thanks! Check out the results:View alternative results:
View alternative results:
0You May LikeVegan SIL Secretly Calls Caterers To Change Bride’s Wedding Menu, “Full-Blown Soap Opera” EnsuesDominyka"Never Talked To Her Again": Woman Decides To Have Fake Wedding And Not Tell FiancéMantas Kačerauskas“I Didn’t Know I Was Engaged To A Child”: Woman Refuses To Make Her Future SIL A BridesmaidDominyka
Dominyka
Mantas Kačerauskas
Relationships
