Coming out is not always easy; it requires a lot of courage. It’s difficult for teens to do because they’re often worried about their parents reacting badly. That’s why some young folks decide to wait a while beforecoming outof the closet.
The worst thing that could happen is if someone outs agayperson before they’re actually ready. This is what happened to a teenager who didn’t come out to his parents but got shocked when one of them suddenly asked about his boyfriend and laughed when he insisted he was straight.
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17-year-old felt like his parent “outed” him after they kept pressing him to reveal he’s gay and laughed at him when he said he isn’t
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The poster shared that they felt their teen son had been in the closet for 7 months and that he seemed to also have a boyfriend
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Although the teen had never officially come out, the parent decided to ask him one day if he planned to bring his boyfriend on their family trip
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The teen seemed to get awkward and denied he was gay, but got emotional after his parent persisted and laughed, he was also angry that he had been outed when he wasn’t ready
Although the parent seemed absolutely oblivious to their son’s feelings about being outed, they apparently were very perceptive about the “signs” that he was gay. The poster had even said that their son was very masculine andstraight-acting, but over the last 7 months, he seemed to have fallen for a boy. But, the teen himself hadn’t come out and confirmed any of this.
Even though both of the boy’s parents seemed to be supportive of his orientation, it isn’t uncommon for LGBTQ+ youth to come out to theirfamilies last. Surveys have found that around 86% of queer young people came out to a close friend first. Many waited for a long time to tell their parents because they were fearful of their reaction.
Forcing someone to come out when they’re not ready can even lead to anxiety and depressive symptoms. LGBT folkswho are outedoften feel blindsided and like a part of their identity has been exposed without their consent. This is probably how the teen felt, which is why his first reaction was to deny everything and pretend he was straight.
The poster did not seem to understand their child’s distress and kept pressing the issue, even going so far as to say that he was very “obviously in a relationship with a guy.” When the teen realized his parent wasn’t giving up, he pleaded that they not reveal anything to his dad. Unfortunately, the poster didn’t handle the situation very well, and it ended with the son feeling extremelyupset.
What parents need to understand is that even if all the signs point to their child being queer, theirassumptionscould still be inaccurate. Parents of possible closeted children need to create an atmosphere where their kid feels comfortable opening up to them. Rather than pushing the issue, they can simply use inclusive language, learn about theLGBTQ+community, and let the child know they are there if they ever need to talk.
Once the kid or teen comesout of the closet, it’s important for their parent to let them know they are loved and supported. They can encourage dialogue and even read up on the topic to understand their child better. This helps the queer individual feel loved and accepted and takes a lot of anxiety away that’s involved with coming out.
What do you think about this story, and do you think the poster was a jerk for their actions?
Most people called the parent out for laughing at their kid and making him feel uncomfortable
Although the community verdict was that the poster was a jerk, some felt that it was okay because the parent wasn’t being malicious
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