There is no one right way to doweddings. Each couple’s celebration of love is unique, especially if people put a lot of thought and personal effort into it. There are, however, some unwritten rules all wedding attendees might be expected to follow.
This redditorwas surprised to learn that her brother’s fiancée wanted to break one of such rules and wear a wedding dress on her future sister-in-law’s big day. The OP said no to the idea, but started to feel bad about it, as the dress belonged to the guest’s mother who she recently lost. Scroll down to find the full story in the bride’s own words below.
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Wearing a wedding dress to someone else’s wedding is a big no-no in some etiquette rulebooks
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This bride-to-be had to tell her brother’s fiancée that she can’t wear her late mother’s wedding dress as a guest
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Wedding guests are usually expected to follow certain rules
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Many people think or dream about their wedding day, sometimes even decades in advance. They might think about the type ofvenuethey would like to celebrate in, the people they would want to have around during the special moment, maybe the kind of cake, or music, or flowers they would love to have, too.
A studydelving deeper into Americans’ wedding wishes and aspirations found that the average age people start to seriously think about their big day is 21. And even though in popular culture, women seem to be portrayed musing over their dream wedding more than their male counterparts, in reality, men are reportedly more likely to think about what they want their wedding to look like while they’re dating.
Bearing in mind the significance of the day, it’s not at all surprising that people put so much thought into it. Neither is the fact that some might have a certain vision and want to stick to it, which might mean having to set a dress code or share other requests with the guests.
But some requests don’t even have to be shared – most people are familiar with the fact that there are certain dos and don’ts in regards to weddings that go without saying. According to the BRIDES magazine,etiquette ruleswedding guests should always follow entail everything from RSVPs (derived from the French “Répondez s’il vous plaît”, meaning “Please respond”) to (not) calling the happy couple on their special day.
It’s important for guests to choose their outfits wisely
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Choosing the right outfit as a wedding guest can be a pain in the neck. And not only because of the etiquette – choosing outfits in general is a headache. But it is true that the aforementioned dos and don’ts for wedding guests limit their choices in regards to what to wear.
Laying the groundwork for what every guestshould avoid wearingto a wedding, BRIDES started with “anything white”. According to the magazine, choosing the color that typically belongs to the bride is out of the question, and people seem to have that ingrained in their brain – a YouGovsurveyrevealed that six-in-ten Americans say that it’s inappropriate to wear white at a wedding.
Even worse than wearing white in people’s eyes is wearing something more extravagant than the happy couple or dressing casually despite a formal dress code, both of which eight-in-ten survey respondents deem inappropriate.
It’s rather safe to assume that the dress the OP’s brother’s fiancée wanted to wear was white, which would traditionally make it an unacceptable choice. The bride-to-be thought it was inappropriate, too, which is why she gently asked her guest not to wear her late mother’swedding dresson the big day. But that caused a rift between the family members, and put members of the AITA community into camps as well, as while most didn’t think the woman was a jerk for saying no, others believed she was being selfish.
Many people didn’t think the bride-to-be was a jerk in the situation
Some, however, sided with the brother and believed that the woman was being selfish
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