Married lifecomes with its fair share of ups and downs, and the occasional quarrel is to be expected. Usually, a sincere apology and a hug can patch things up, but sometimes, a disagreement cuts deep enough to make you want to get a little petty.
That’s what one woman onRedditresorted to after her husband accused her of being wasteful when she spent $950 on their monthly grocery run. In response, she decided to stop using and wearing all his gifts to show she was done with his complaints about money. Now, she’s left wondering if she went too far.
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The man accused his wife of being wasteful after she spent $950 on groceries
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In response, she decided to stop using and wearing all his gifts
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The missteps couples make when they talk about money
Marriage is often seen as a declaration of love, but it comes with a lot of practicalities—one of the biggest being how to handle money together. From managing a household budget to planning for the future, finances are a delicate subject that many couples struggle to discuss, even before they tie the knot.
“It’s really hard to feel comfortable starting these conversations,”saysJillian Knight, a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in financial therapy. “Because a lot of the time, people have the belief that you shouldn’t talk about money or that they’re not good with money.”
Many couples also overlook the importance of regularly checking in on their financial situation, particularly when one person becomes the default money manager. While it’s fine for one partner to take the lead, both should have a basic understanding of their finances, believes Knight. How much is coming in? How much is going out? What are the big financial goals? Without this shared knowledge, unexpected issues can arise and cause unnecessary stress.
Things can get even more complicated when there’s a power imbalance, with one partner earning most or all of the household income. This can make the breadwinner feel in control of financial decisions, leaving the other partner vulnerable. “The downside is that the non-earning partner can easily begin to feel—or become—powerless in this arrangement,”saysMeredith Moore, Founder & CEO of Artisan Financial Strategies LLC. As a result, feelings can get hurt, like in the Reddit story where the wife, despite having a small income of her own, felt sidelined in financial matters.
Lastly, financial discussions often revolve around budgeting or saving, which can make them feel like a chore. Megan McCoy, an assistant professor at Kansas State University,suggestsadding a little fun to the mix. For example, she and her husband buy a Powerball ticket twice a year and spend a date night dreaming about what they would do if they won. “I really think it’s a huge mistake to only talk about scarcity—where we should cut, how we should budget,” she says. “You can learn so much from having those positive, playful conversations.”
Many commenters sided with the woman, suggesting her husband might be trying to manipulate her
Others pointed out that they both could have handled the situation better through proper communication
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