Everyparentwants what’s best for their little ones. But it’s not always easy to know what exactly that means. There’s plenty of debate surrounding the safest sleeping method for your child, what you should be feeding your kiddos at every age and who should be watching them while you’re at work.

It’s impossible to be perfect, but according to psychoanalyst and parent coachErica Komisar, LCSW, daycare isn’t the best choice for most families. Below, you’ll find aclipof Erica’s recent interview on The Diary Of A CEO podcast that went viral, as well as a conversation with clinical psychologist and psychoanalystDr. Corinne Masur.

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But Erica Komisar, LCSW, says it’s harmful to leave our kids in someone else’s care at such a young age

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You can see the full clip from Erica’s interview right here

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But it’s not always easy for parents to decide what to do when they have to leave their kids in the care of someone else. To learn more about this topic, we reached out toDr. Corinne Masur, a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst. She was kind enough to have a chat withBored Pandaand discuss some of the issues with modern childcare.

But Dr. Masur says, “The problem with daycare as it exists in the United States (and perhaps other countries) is that daycare workers are often so poorly paid that they often do not stay at one center for a long period of time. Frequent staff changes are not helpful for the young infant or toddler. The loss of the familiar caretaker represents an important loss for an infant.”

The expert also says that the staff in daycare centers are often overworked and stressed themselves. “This does not enable them to provide optimal care for individual infants.”

“We need to put excellent childcare and early education at the top of our list of priorities”

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“What is most optimal is for babies and young toddlers to spend six hours or less at daycare per day – even if the daycare is high quality,” Dr. Masur says.

Finally, the expert added that “it is time for parents to speak up and to say to their employers and their governmental leaders that they need more help and support to care for their children. They need to speak with or write to their employers and their governments, they need to advocate for their children. We need to put excellent childcare and early education at the top of our list of priorities.”

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