The useru/AssumptionOwn7651, author of today’s story, is a new mom, and what is definitely darkening her joy of motherhood today is her difficult relationship with her boyfriend’s mother. And the birth of a granddaughter, unfortunately, didn’t improve the grandma’s attitude toward our heroine at all…
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The author of the post is a new mom, and is happy—but her mother-in-law, alas, doesn’t get along with her
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The lady was almost happy when the couple broke up some time ago, until they reconciled
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Recently, the mother-in-law was holding her newborn grandkid, and wouldn’t hand her over to the mom—just the dad
So, the Original Poster (OP) says that she recently gave birth to a daughter, and since then, she cannot understand which motives drive her mother-in-law whencommunicatingwith her. Previously, when the author and her boyfriend temporarily broke up, she kept telling him how bad his ex was, but the couple reconciled, and now everything is fine in theirrelationship.
Our heroine says that she has always been interested in psychology and the reasons that underlie this or that behavior. And now, it seems to her that her MIL, most likely, simply hates her, and thus denies the unpleasant person the right to be a decent mom in her eyes. So the author decided to seek advice online. What is the best way to act in this particular situation?
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Well, the relationship between MIL and DIL often leaves much to be desired, and so it has been, alas, since ancient times. Older women, seeing in their daughter-in-law a competitor for the attention of their son, automatically begin to dislike them. They see only shortcomings and turn a blind eye to any advantages. As a result, such a reaction from the MIL often only harms the family life of their son.
“If the mother-in-law, as this woman says, has never loved her, then it’s not surprising that she does not consider herparentingexpertise worthwhile,” says Irina Matveeva, apsychologistand certified NLP specialist, whomBored Pandaasked for a comment on this case. “This may simply be a subconscious reaction, and she may not be aware of her own actions.”
“If all of the above doesn’t help, then it goes either counseling or further distancing from each other. The mother must understand that her son has grown up, he has his own life, and she’s no longer the main person in it. And the sooner she realizes this, the better,” Irina summarizes.
By the way, both experts and commenters on the original post also agree with this point of view. “The critical advice I can give on the mother-in-law/daughter in law relationship is don’t assume that because you think it, it is true,” Janet Quinlan, a life coach,sayson her blog. Many responders fully supported the author, admitting that she is not alone in her problems with her MIL.
Most commenters unanimously sided with the new mom, claiming that they have similar problems with own mothers-in-law
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