An important part of living in the 21st century is the ability of everyone, regardless of race, gender, religion, or really any other demographic indicator to be whatever they want to be. While this often doesn’t work in practice, it’s still generally a noble goal to strive after.
TikToker and self-proclaimed traditional wife Jasmine Darkeshared a videowhere she indicated that she wants to raise her daughter to become a homemaker. This sparked a debate online, as people discussed gender roles and whether or not it is fair to a child to be forced into this sort of lifestyle.More info:TikTok
Some people prefer to be homemakers instead of working a regular job
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But one woman caused some controversy online when she wanted her young daughter to embrace this lifestyle
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There is a niche movement espousing the virtues of being a housewife
The basics of this lifestyle involve submitting to a husband whom you are financially dependent on and never having any ambitions beyond raising children. There is also an aesthetic commitment to cosplaying as a 19th-century substance farmer or at least a caricature of a 1950s housewife.
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While the idea might seem appealing, the risks are pretty high
Mrs. Darke has chosen to forgo a career or really any independence from her husband, that is her prerogative. Should he die, be incapacitated, or end up being abusive (which would be in line with common behavior from the 19th century or the 1950s, she does not have much recourse, but this is a risk she chose to take.
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Ultimately, children need to be able to choose and consent to a lifestyle independent of a parent’s beliefs
This isn’t to say that it’s the worst thing in the world, after all, who wouldn’t want to just do some chores around the house while someone else works? This all sounds fine and dandy until you really sit down and consider the risks. What will being out of the job market for a few years do to your career? What if you realize you don’t like it? What if your spouse suddenly can’t provide? Even worse, what if you become so dependent that you simply can’t leave and the relationship turns sour? As adults, we have to keep these things in mind and not just engage with wishful thinking.
Ultimately, a child needs the opportunity to make choices later in life. It’s exceedingly rare that kids forced into certain life paths don’t end up hating them and are filled with resentfulness. Even worse, removing these opportunities later will make it much harder for young adults to actually achieve the life they want to live.
Many readers thought this was a terrible thing to teach a young girl
But some supported her ideas
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