Having access to reliable transportation is a big deal for teenagers. Many people living in larger cities take it for granted. However, if you live in a smaller town and don’t have yourdriver’s license, there’s no public transport running late at night, and there are no taxis or Ubers around, you pretty much have to get creative. You might end up relying on your or your friends’parentsto get around.

One anonymous mom, user Bringmetolife,askedthe friendly Mumsnet online community for some impartial advice about a disagreement she and someotherparents had. She shared how one mom kept picking up their teenagers late at night on weekends while they were out partying, but finally had enough. Now, the author said she’s unwilling to do the same because of how exhausting and inconvenient it is. So, she asked for the internet’s verdict. You’ll find the full story below.Bored Pandahas reached out to Bringmetolife for further comment, and we’ll update the article as soon as we hear back from her.

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A mom driving at night, focused and concerned, city lights glowing in the background.

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A mom asked the net whether she was unreasonable for not wanting to get up at night to pick up her daughter and her friends after they finish partying

Text discussing a mom’s dilemma about not picking up teens at 3AM after clubbing.

Text about mom refusing to pick up teens at 3 AM after clubbing, discussing petrol money issue.

Text discussing gift card for a restaurant and lack of Uber service with expensive taxi fares.

Text conversation about mom refusing late-night pick-up from club, discusses safety and planning weekend activities.

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Text from a mom discussing not picking up teens at 3AM after clubbing, suggesting arranging a taxi instead.

Text discussing a mom’s refusal to pick up teens at 3am after clubbing, mentioning challenges among parents.

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Text conversation about the mom refusing to pick up teens at 3AM after clubbing, mentioning taxi costs.

Text expressing regret over not sharing responsibilities after clubbing.

Text advocating teens book taxis and take responsibility after clubbing at 3 AM.

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The mom later shared a little bit more context about everything

Forum post about teens in second year of A levels, aged eighteen, missing info.

Discussion on teens clubbing, budgeting, and drinking habits at home.

Discussion about safety concerns for teens clubbing and using taxis at 3AM.

Being picked up might be convenient for the teenagers, but the adults are the ones sacrificing their rest and time

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No matter the problem, there are always different ways to solve it. On the record, safety is a major concern if your teenagers go out and stay out until late at night. So, naturally, many parents want to make sure that their kids are safe and get back home in one piece.

That instinct to keep them safe is what drives them to, well, drive long distances in the middle of the night to pick the teens up and then chauffeur them home. If you ever went partying inhigh schoolor university, it’s likely that your or your friends’ parents have driven you back at some point.

Getting up in the middle of the night isn’t something that many people are willing to do after a long, grueling week at work. Of course, having a family means making sacrifices. But if you constantly mess upyour sleep, you’ll get less rest, have less energy, you’ll concentrate worse, and your work andrelationshipswill suffer.

So, it’s probably better to pay a bit more for pricy taxis than to constantly sacrifice good sleep and your health. Not only that, but parents can use this opportunity to encourage their kids to be more independent and responsible.

For instance, if the teens plan to go partying, they could pay for the cabs back home themselves. Or they could encourage some of the teenagers to get their driver’s license, so that one of them could be thedesignated driverfor the rest of the group. Of course, there should be absolutely no getting behind the wheel whatsoever if the person has consumed any alcohol. And remember, you don’t need to drink to have fun.

Sleep deprivation is a very serious problem that affects your physical andmental health

Woman yawning, covering mouth with hand, symbolizing tiredness after late-night event.

According to the Cleveland Clinic, missing even as little as 1.5 hours of sleepcan impacthow you feel. This can cause one to develop short-term problems, from a lack of alertness and moodiness to memory problems, and an inability or unwillingness to participate in normal daily activities.

“During periods of sleeplessness, hidden health hazards accumulate that can’t be covered up with concealer or reversed with caffeine. Everything from your cardiovascular system to your immune system feels the impact,” sleep medicine specialist Dr. Nancy Foldvary-Schaefer explains.

Poor sleep means more fatigue, while chronic sleeplessness can lead to mood disorders like depression or anxiety. If you don’t sleep properly, you’re more forgetful, your reaction times suffer, and you can even get blurred vision. You need around 7 to 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep each night, but this number can be greater or smaller depending on the individual. As per Dr. Foldvary-Schaefer, deep sleep allows your brain to clear the toxins that accumulate during your waking hours. Failing to do that can lead to neurodegenerative diseases. One example of this is Alzheimer’s.

On top of all of that, not getting enough sleep means that you’re negatively impacting your immune system, making you more susceptible to falling ill, as well as increasing your recovery time. Meanwhile, you’re also more at risk of developing cardiovascular disease, hormonal issues, and generally being more stressed.

The proverbial cherry (of doom) on top? Sleep deprivation and exhaustion increase your risk of getting into car accidents. Referring to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration report, the Cleveland Clinic notes that driving after 20 hours of sleep is like driving with a blood alcohol content of 0.08% (that’s the legal limit in many US states). Drowsy driving leads to thousands of crashes every year.

Here’s how the internet reacted to the story. Many readers thought the mom wasn’t being unreasonable, and they called out the teenagers

Text exchange about teens clubbing until 3AM and getting home independently.

Text screenshot discussing teens and parental decisions regarding late-night pickups.

Forum post suggesting shared taxi cost for teens after clubbing.

Comment on responsibility: Adults must plan their way home after clubbing.

Text discussing reasonable solutions for teens returning from clubbing late at night.

Comment discussing mom’s refusal to pick up teens after clubbing.

Comment discusses a mom refusing to pick up teens after clubbing, emphasizing responsibility and planning ahead.

Text discussing refusal to pick up teens after clubbing at 3AM, suggesting they manage their own transport like adults.

Comment about refusing to pay for teens' taxi after clubbing.

Comment on refusing to pick up teens at 3AM after clubbing, suggesting taking a cab or staying in a hotel.

Discussion on responsibilities of picking up teens after clubbing.

Text exchange about teens needing transport after clubbing, suggesting they act like adults.

Text expressing reluctance to be picked up by a parent after a night out, shared by user SleeplessInWherever.

Text discussing a mom’s refusal to pick up teens from clubbing at 3 AM, emphasizing independence and planning.

Text comment supporting mom refusing to pick up teens at 3AM after clubbing.

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Text message suggesting teens take a taxi after clubbing instead of relying on mom for a 3AM pickup.

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A few parents said that they’d pick up the kids just for the element of safety

Comment discussing teen safety and clubbing pickup arrangement at 3AM.

Text exchange about mom considering picking up teens after clubbing for driving practice.

Comment discussing the logistics of picking up teens after clubbing at 3AM.

Comment discussing taking turns for picking up teens after clubbing.

Text discussing teens taking taxis after clubbing and a preference for pre-booked transportation.

Text exchange discussing responsible pickup of teens after clubbing, highlighting concerns about safety at 3AM.

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