Not the mother-in-law inthis recently shared story, though. She wanted a grandson so badly that she had the gall to insult herpregnant DILin a particularly vile way. Not willing to put up with such behavior, the DIL and her husband had to make a hard decision in order to protect their future children.
The author of this post was kind enough to have a chat withBored Pandawhen we reached out. Useru/Worried_Analysis_838told us more about her relationship with her MIL in the past and whether she thinks keeping contact with her in the future is at all possible. Read our conversation with the pregnant mother below!
A woman found out she was pregnant with a girl, and it made her MIL mad
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The MIL wanted a grandson but chose to express her disappointment in a horrible way
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The author tells Bored Panda that she doesn’t see how she could have a relationship with her MIL after this
The Redditor says she decided to share this story one evening when she couldn’t fall asleep. “It was one in the morning when I posted it, and ranting about it and getting it off my chest helped me go to bed.”
Even with the MIL out of the picture, theyoung familyhas a support network they can rely on. “Thankfully, my family is amazing and has been a rock for both of us,” u/Worried_Analysis_838 tells Bored Panda. “My mom and dad adore my fiancé and treat him like one of their own.”
The couple had to mature faster than other people their age — perhaps that’s why they’re so emotionally mature and were able to react to the MIL’s behavior level-headedly. “We had to grow up pretty fast when we had our son, mainly because we were teenagers when we had him,” the Redditor says. “We worked hard without asking for help, and we both have finished college and [provided] for our family.”
The young mother has some advice for people who might be dealing with difficult in-laws, too. She says it’s best to “shut down the crazy before it turns into psycho.” In other words, setting boundaries.
“Setting clear boundaries and enforcing them makes a huge difference when it comes to overbearing in-laws. At some point, it’s up to them whether they prioritize how they feel about their relationship over how their adult child feels over their own relationship.”
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Gender disappointment is actually a thing, and even some parents might feel it
Dr. Brofman explains that it’s not about the child, but it’s about the parents or grandparents and their unfulfilled wishes. “[It’s about] a person’s very specific fantasies and wishes about how they envision their journey as a parent.”
People may feel gender disappointment because of familial or cultural pressures. Others might want to replicate a parent-child relationship they had with their parent or vice versa.
“It’s actually quite normal to have disappointment, and that might manifest in a variety of ways. It just so happens that gender disappointment is a particularly powerful one.”
Disclaimer: the more accurate term would be ‘sex disappointment’ because sex is used to describe physiological characteristics babies get assigned at birth. The term ‘gender’ refers to socially constructed and learned traits and behaviors. Mental health experts use the term ‘gender disappointment’ because it is more widely accepted and easier for the general public to understand.
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