Usually, people trust theirfriendsenough to expect not to be betrayed. They especially don’t expect to be betrayed in the way that friend knows will hurt them the most.
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How should one react when the friend you vouched for betrays you in a nasty way?
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A woman vouched for her friend to get a job at a prestigious hotel where she worked, and she succeeded
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The friend seamlessly blended into the company, and soon, the woman noticed that she and the chief receptionist, who is a married father, were being a little too friendly
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After the friend revealed she didn’t care that he had a wife and a child, the friendship between the women ended
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Today’s OP works as a receptionist at a prestigioushotel. Some time ago, a position opened up, and she suggested her best friend, dubbed Jane in the story.
Referring a friend to a job isn’t such a rare thing. In fact, many companies offerreferral programswhere employees can recommend a person they know might be good for the role. If the person is hired, usually, the worker who put in that recommendation gets some kind of bonus.
Some saythat referral programs can be both good and bad for the partaking employees’ careers. It all comes down to the person they endorse. If that person is hired and they blend seamlessly with the company, their reputation within the workplace might slightly increase. Yet, if the recommended and hired person turns out not to be a great fit, the worker’s reputation might take a hit.
To talk about workplace affairsBored Pandagot in touch withDr. Catherine Connellyfrom McMaster University.Many understand what abad ideaitis to have an affair with a coworker. As Dr. Connelly pointed out, a workplace romance can affect team morale, especially ifthe couple’s behavior is affecting their professional relationships with their colleagues.
Not to mentionunhealthypower dynamicsterritory. After all, building a relationship on a dynamic where people aren’t equal usually doesn’t lead to anything good. And if the affair ends awfully, the one in the lower-level job position might even lose a job over it.
Also, some people who decide to have workplace affairs sometimes already have partners or even family, which makes this bad situation even worse. This way, they not only risk their (and their lover’s) careers but also their home life.
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Unfortunately, the OP’s friend’s affair basically checked all these marks – a coworker from a higher position who is also married. No wonder the author felt repulsed. Also, the fact that, back in the day, her parents got divorced because of her father’s infidelity didn’t help the outlook either.
Ultimately, parents’ infidelity does not only hurt their spouse but their children as well. They mightfeelbetrayed, and, in the long run, it can turn into major problems like trust issues, behavioral issues, academic struggles, and many more problems. So, experiencing it all herself, the woman knew how deeply her friend’s affair could harm the kid involved.
This made the original poster have a panic attack. Since day one, she had been contemplating telling the wife the truth, yet she didn’t have any rock-solid evidence despite trying to get it. So, not knowing how to deal with this sickening situation, the woman turned to Reddit.
People there basically declared that doing nothing in this situation isn’t the answer. Some suggested she confront John himself, while others said to go collect as much evidence as possible and tell thewife.
Many suggested she go over his head to higher management and maybe even try to get him fired. Or find anotherjobherself, just to leave all the toxicity behind and have the security of a paycheck if she decides to cause waves for the couple.
Dr. Connelly said that when an employee becomes aware of an affair, they should always consider reporting it to HR if it affecting their own performance: “For example, if they need to work longer hours or do more tasks because the affair partners are too distracted to work, then this needs to be made clear, so that it can be managed. On the other hand, if someone else’s affair isn’t really affecting them, then they should focus on their own work.”
Well, maybe there isn’t one answer on what the woman should do. Yet, their passionate ideas on what she could do might have inspired her. No matter what she ended up (or will end up) doing, the fact that all of it happened because she trusted a friend surely feels like a knife in the back.
The woman came to Reddit to ask for advice on what she should do, and people came up with many ideas of whom she could report this affair to
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