Parents often love being involved in their children’s lives, but sometimes they can overstep boundaries, creating unnecessary tension. This is what happened to a man whose parents criticized his mother-in-law for not being a supportivegrandmother.
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A man shared how he and his wife are preparing to welcome their first child, reflecting on the immense struggles his mother-in-law faced while raising her own children
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However, his parents disagree with him and are upset that his mother-in-law isn’t being a more helpful grandmother
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Despite defending his mother-in-law against his parents’ criticism, he’s now questioning whether he was too harsh with his own parents
Meet the Original Poster (OP), a 30-year-old man who’s married to his wife, Ellie. The couple is eagerly awaiting the arrival of their first child later this month. But a recent family conflict has put a damper on the otherwise joyful anticipation.
Despite her hardships, Ellie describes her mother as an incredible woman who did her best with the limited support she had. While Ellie’s mother has worked hard to recover her mental health and achieve some financial stability, she’s far from wealthy. Ellie and Leo have expressed understanding of their mom’s limits, knowing she had to give everything she had while raising them and may not have the capacity to do the same now.
OP, fed up with their harsh judgments and unwilling to let them upset his family, stood firm. He told his parents they had no right to speak on what Ellie wanted and asked them to leave when they continued. Though OP feels justified in defending his wife and her mother, his parents accused him of overreacting and punishing them for “having sympathy” for Ellie.
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It’s not uncommon for in-laws to clash or express discontent about each other. While both sets of parents typically want the best for their children, they may not always agree with or appreciate the behavior of the other grandparents.
In an article forChoosing Therapy, Tricia Johnson discusses toxic mothers-in-law, explaining that their negativity often manifests in control, manipulation, or even abusive behavior. These actions, intentional or not, may stem from patterns learned in their family of origin.
Toxic behavior from in-laws isn’t always obvious to others, especially their own children. However, in this story, the OP not only noticed his parents’ negativity but also chose to call them out for it. Having a supportive partner like the OP can be a tremendous blessing.Expertsagree that a supportive partner is a cornerstone of a healthy relationship and can even positively impact physical health.
A supportive partner encourages open communication, paving the way for honest discussions about feelings, fears, and goals. When you can share concerns without fear of judgment or criticism, it fosters trust and deepens the bond between partners.
Respecting your family is another hallmark of a supportive partner. In this instance, the OP defended his wife and mother-in-law, showing his commitment to both. So, do you think the OP was too harsh? What would you have done in his shoes?
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