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While some people keep their distaste of someone to themselves, others go out of their way to show it to the disliked person
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A woman’s lifelong friend’s girlfriend obviously didn’t like her and kept implying that the woman wanted to date her boyfriend
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For broader context about the situation,Bored Pandareached out to the story’s author.She has a friend, Miles, whom she has known since they were two, as their parents arebest friends. In fact, the woman said that they view each other as a chosen family. She added that it should be noted that she isn’t in love with Miles at all. He is just a friend to her.
Today’s story started because Miles’girlfriend,Lindy, doesn’t like the OP. Lindy keeps calling the author a “typical girl best friend”and likes to imply that she must want to sleep with Miles, which is very far from the truth, as she never planned to ruin his relationship.
The whole thing got worse when she saw apictureof when Miles and the OP were 8 years old and had a school wedding play where they were bride and groom. The post’s author talked to Miles about his girlfriend’s distaste for her, but he dismissed her worries.
When Miles invited the OP to his birthday, Lindy wrote to her that she’d be supervising her. The original poster felt fed up with this, so she once again tried talking to her friend, but there were no new results.So, she decided to skip thebirthday party. This kind of decision made everyone —Miles, Lindy, the OP’s parents, and Miles’ parents upset and mad.
We asked the OP if she still thinks this was a good decision, to which she answered yes:“Lindy would have made me feel very uncomfortable. I already struggle with a generalized panic disorder. Going would have put me in a mental state that would have been unhealthy.”
Additionally, some netizens expressed the thought that sometimes it’s good to move on from relationships in your life that seem to not be working anymore. Well, we’re not sure if the author not attending the birthday party had this exact intention, as she said that, in her eyes, she had done something any rational human would do.
She says that she always tries her best not to cross any lines of male-female friendships, like not intruding on personal spaces, not hanging out in places that are too intimate, and things like that. Up until Lindy came into the picture, the OP never had any problems with Miles’ other partners.
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Well, if you’re still wondering what are those signs that a friendship is starting to not work anymore, we’re here to help. Of course, it always depends on the situation and the friendship itself, but here aresomeof them:
If any of these signs fit your beloved friendship, don’t freak out. As we said, it always depends on the situation. And if it still worries you, as with almost all situations in life, it’s always good to talk to your friend, no matter how cliche it might sound.
And if it turns out that your friendship isn’t in the healthiest place right now, you can always considerfriendship counseling. Yes, it’s a thing. Basically, it’s like couples counseling, just for platonic relationships. It can be a place where both parties can express their feelings and work through them.
Of course, sometimes, the best thing is toendthe friendship, especially if it not only doesn’t work but harms the parties involved. The ending of a friendship can be executed gradually, with friends becoming more and more distant. Or it can immediately, for example, with one of the friends (or both of them) deciding to end their relationship.
Also, there’s always an option for a break. After all, not all friendship breakups have to be permanent. Maybe you just need distance from this person right now, but in the future, you might enjoy their company again.
Well,wecan’tpredict what thefutureholds for the OP andMiles’friendship, butit’svery clearthat his relationship with Lindyisn’thelping it.The woman mentioned that their friendship is basically in his hands now. So,let’shope they will all find a way to work it out, as it would be sad to lose aperson,who you consider chosenfamily,due tosomeone’sodd actions.
So, she asked people online whether her skipping the birthday party was the wrong move,andthey assured her that, in theireyes,it wasn’t
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