If you’ve spent any time on TikTok lately, you’ve probably come across the viral “We Listen and We Don’t Judge” trend. The idea is simple: share a funny or questionable secret with your loved ones and have a great laugh together.

It’s meant to be harmless fun, except for oneRedditor, it became anything but. When she decided to join in with her husband, his shocking confession left her questioning their entiremarriage.

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The couple decided to take part in the viral “We Listen and We Don’t Judge” TikTok trend

Woman looks surprised as a man shows her something on his phone, related to TikTok trend “We Listen And We Don’t Judge”.

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But when the husband made his shocking confession, his wife was left questioning their entire marriage

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What experts have to say about the new TikTok challenge

There are already hundreds of TikTok videos following the “We Listen and We Don’t Judge” trend, some with millions of views. And while people from all walks of life are trying it out—best friends, parents and kids, coworkers—it seems to be especially popular withcouples. Perhaps it’s because it allows them to be vulnerable and see where their relationship really stands.

Many of the confessions are playful, hilarious, and undeniably entertaining. But some are real tearjerkers or outright shocking, like the one shared in the Reddit story. “Watching, I could feel the small heart breaks that went down with the ‘truth’ being delivered,”saystherapist Joy Berkheimer, LMFT, PhD, and chief sexologist at the sexual wellness platform SXWA.

This means that when serious matters are aired publicly for everyone to see, the label “we don’t judge” can easily become an excuse to dodge accountability. Which in turn, could create significant trust issues and harm the relationship.

That said, if handled carefully, it can also open the door to more meaningful conversations with your partner.

“I think this trend has potential as a way to increase truth-telling in relationships,”notes Jenn Gunsaullus, PhD, a sexologist and relationship expert. “Sharing small secrets in a ‘public confessional’ setting like TikTok might be productive for getting out minor things that have been hidden, especially if it’s done with humor and mutual respect.”

“‘We listen and we don’t judge’ could become part of a couple’s everyday language, creating more opportunities for honesty and less defensiveness,” she adds.

The most important takeaway is not to stop the discussion after one attempt at opening up. Instead, use it as an opportunity to address fears, hurt feelings, worries, and needs, and to work on improving communication and building healthier habits together.

Couple sitting on steps, man speaking while woman looks stunned, illustrating TikTok trend impact.

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