Gender rolesshould really be a thing of the past, but some families still insist on them. To each their own, but if one is going to relegate the mother to staying at home with the kids, the father best be prepared to provide.
A womanturned to the internetfor advice when she got a bit harsh with her “broke” husband who didn’t stand up for her to his sexist and traditional family. Netizens shared their own experiences and advice with the mom.We reached out to the wife in the story via private message and will update the article when she gets back to us.
Some folks have in-laws who think they know best how to run their families
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So one mom had to give her MIL a reality check when she wanted her to be a SAHM
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Normally, a “traditional” family would at least have a strong father figure
Some commenters suggested that she should not have said these things in front of their children, but the mother is hardly the one who started it. After all, what about the kids hearing another adult, the MIL, talking about “a woman’s place” and also them watching their father not stand up for their mother.
While the wife’s words were harsh, they aren’t as bad as the precedent the parents were setting
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This is not the first, nor last time someone has unreasonable in-laws and a spouse unwilling to stand up to them. While we don’t know the exact details, it does look like this man’s beliefs and personality really depend on whether his wife or mother is in the room. Setting aside that this is hardly in line with the “traditional” roles his family espouses, it’s also a sign that he is unreliable.
In general, regardless of one’s beliefs, the first responsibility is to his own family, that is, his wife and kids. No matter his opinion, his wife is the breadwinner, she is the person who is bringing in the money that feeds his children. Just as importantly, she is asking him to support her and he immediately crumbles. It’s quite clear he has never properly found a way to not be under herwing, to the detriment of his marriage.
Again, in a “real” traditional marriage, the man is supposed to protect the wife, so in this particular case, the woman has the worst of both worlds. Her words were cruel, but it’s important to note why she directed them at the husband. The parents are set in their ways, there is no more convincing them, indeed, she doesn’t even try. Instead, she has scorn for a man who, ostensibly, agreed to be of assistance, then can’t. For this relationship to last, the couple need to figure out if they can actuallycut contactwith the parents.
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But most were firm in their belief that the mom was in the right
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