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Man says she chose to be in this position and shouldn’t complain if she doesn’t want to go back to work, making the stay-at-home mom angry
The OP has been with his wife for a total of 5 years, married for 2 of them. About 5 months ago, they had their first child. The wife said she wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, so the husband agreed. Even though he knew that back in the day, she expressed a wish to be a stay-at-home wife, he soon rejected that idea after he told her that she would have to do everything around the house. So, he let her know that when she recovers after birth, she’ll have to do some chores around the house since she’s the one staying at home.
The man’s response was that it was the job she chose (being a stay-at-home mom). After all, it’s a 24-hour job. The wife got mad, saying she didn’t know what she was signing up for. So, after some back-and-forth, the husband offered for the wife to go back to work and split childcare 50/50. This idea didn’t please her, and she got even madder. So, the man came on Reddit to ask if he was wrong for saying what he did.
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To this, a lot of people online answered that they believe that the issues in this relationship go way further than just childcare responsibilities. Neither of the people from the story are jerks, as both of them have unrealistic expectations about parenting and each other’s responsibilities.
According toApryl Duncan, the level of responsibilities of stay-at-home moms can vary. Still, the basic definition of the position includes both childcare and household care. That suggests that, unlike thestereotypes, SAHMs don’t stay at home watching soap operas and barely doing anything. Being a stay-at-home mom is a 24-hour job, just like the Reddit post’s OP said.
So, just as netizens did, we wish that this couple improves their communication skills. Communicating expectations is an important thing that lets people avoid such pointless fights like the one they had. After all, such fights can often lead to something more serious, and, well, that doesn’t sound pleasant at all.
Internet folks are pretty sure the couple are in need of improving their communication skills and managing their expectations of each other
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