When we say that the apple doesn’t fall far from the apple tree, we mean that our parents still remain for us, even unconsciously, a kind of role model. Even if they are infinitely far from ideal. Even if in childhood we vowed to ourselves not to be like them in any way.
Our story today is also from the same category. Its author, theuser u/AutomaticRead3217, said the proverb about the apple tree and the apple to her ex-husband literally in the heat of a moment, but she turned out to be damn right. Well, let’s now judge for ourselves what happened here!
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The author of the post got divorced from her husband 4 years ago when their daughter was just 1 year old
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It turned out that the woman’s ex fell in love with another woman and left the family for her
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Since then the guy has met his daughter just 11 times in 4 years, regularly breaking his own promises to visit her
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The same situation repeated this time – and then the mom’s patience ran out and she snapped at the hapless dad
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The woman even told him that in spite of constantly claiming that he wouldn’t be like his own abusive dad, the man is actually following in his footsteps
So, the Original Poster (OP) had been together with her husband for 6 years, and when their daughter was one year old, the guy left the family. Just like in ahackneyed clichéfrom an old melodrama – the woman returned home from the grocery store, the guy’s closet was empty, and there was a note on the table saying he had fallen in love with someone else and was leaving for her.
And now we are doing a timeskip to today. The OP’s daughter is already five, her bio dad married hisformer mistressand now, although he remains in military service, he serves at the same base. And the hapless dad has seen his daughter only 11 times in 4 years. Yes, that’s right, the author of the post calculated everything!
Moreover, more than once the situation was such that the dad himself said that he would come over soon, made a promise to the daughter – but at the last moment he avoided fulfilling it. And not just once, not twice, not a dozen times. As a result, the girl was incredibly upset every time, and now, according to the mom’s words, she’s even undergoing therapy because of this.
So this time, the guy promised that he’d come for his daughter on Saturday morning, but on Friday night he called the OP again and said that he couldn’t be there. Moreover, in his own words, his new wife was jealous over his time with the kid. You heard right, for communicating with his 5-year-old daughter less than three times a year!
Needless to say, the mom’s patience ran out, and she angrily told her ex-husband everything she thoughtabout him. About how their daughter was forced to skip dad days in preschool to avoid awkward questions. About how upset she was seeing other kids with theirown dads. And the fact that the ex, although he has said more than once that he doesn’t want to repeat the life path of his abusive dad, is in fact exactly following in his footsteps.
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Also, some commenters do believe that the reason could be in the influence of the man’s new wife on him. “I’m confused as to who would actually want to be with a woman who gets jealous of a child,” one commenter pondered. “Looking forward to the update where he leaves his current wife and tries to get back with OP,” another person added sarcastically. And what do you, our dear readers, think about this story?
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