We have all heard stories about some people getting tangled in work-wife or work-husbandrelationships. Yet, not everyone gets into them voluntarily. Sometimes, a person tries so hard to become their coworker’s work spouse that it gets disturbing how set on this goal they are.
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How should you act around a coworker who so desperately wants to be your work spouse?
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The author’s husband has a coworker who desperately tries to be his work-wife despite him not showing any appreciation for this idea
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She also keeps pestering his wife, complaining about everything she does — regarding work, pregnancy, and so on
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The OP’s husband has a wannabe work-wife. Typically, awork spouseis a coworker a person engages with the most at work. The concept itself isn’tcheatingper se, as long as the spouses don’t engage in romantic or physical relationships. Yet, in some cases, it becomes quite problematic when work spouses become too close and this closeness breaks actual relationships.
In the case of today’s story, interestingly, the husband’s coworker is not officially dubbed his work-wife. The author calls her a wannabe since she desperately tries to get the title even though he doesn’t plan to call her this.
Yet, she still manages to cause harm in their relationship. Well, maybe more to theirmentalwell-being instead of the relationship itself, but harm is still harm.
The OP has beenpregnantfor 8 and a half months, so she is no longer working. Still, the wannabe work-wife doesn’t like this either. For instance, she implies that the wife is too thin for a pregnant lady, even though the author herself has said she’s a healthy weight.
The woman guesses that the real reason why the coworker even brought this up is because she hoped that the woman would gain way more weight. And since she’s a bigger lady herself, this would have made her feel better. But it didn’t happen.
So she picked on the pregnant woman’s age. Well, with modern medicine and technology, the age at which a woman can carry a child has significantly increased. Now, getting pregnant after turning 35 is categorized as “advanced maternal age” (AMA). Yet, it shouldn’t sound too scary, as pregnancy is still very much on the table at this age.
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However, the “work-wife” didn’t think so. She rushed to the couple and started blabbing about fetal alcohol syndrome. Basically, it’s aconditionthat a child can have if they were exposed to alcohol while in the womb. It can cause them to have lifelong behavior, cognitive, physical, and learning disabilities.
These harsh words stunned everyone. The OP told her off, and when she left, the couple thought it was the end. But no. The “work-wife” started harassing them – leaving many emails, calls, and voicemails.
So, the man went to HR and reported her. After all, he had plenty ofevidenceof the harassment, as it wasn’t just some harsh words said during a party. Shortly after, she resigned. As the author later clarified, she wasaskedto leave the job, which is basically being fired.
But the harassment didn’t stop. So, as it was written in the update, the couple will be changing their numbers, and a report to the relevant authorities will be filed.
The people there reassured her that she wasn’t a jerk. In fact, some of them were surprised how she could even think she was wrong here. This woman was always pestering her with unaskedopinionsand said very nasty stuff to her. And then, even after all this, she still worried about her mental health. Well, that doesn’t sound like the actions of a jerk, does it?
Let’s just hope that the ex-coworker will get the help she needs. After all, her actions not only hurt people around her but herself, too.
The pregnant woman told this wannabe work-wife off, but when she kept harassing the couple on the phone and over email, she wondered if she should’ve stayed quiet
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