Infidelity is like that one coworker who steals your sandwich from the office fridge – sneaky, selfish, and guaranteed to ruin your day. But, unlike a stolenlunch, the aftermath of cheating is messier than that family group chat argument.

And, if you think affairs only mess with the people directly involved, oh no, my friend. Families, kids, even the goldfish – no one is safe when someone decides to color outside the marital lines. Just ask our Redditor; he learned this the hard way when he forced hiswifeto tell their teenage daughter all about her “coloring session.”

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When infidelity hits, it can either be a wake-up call or the wrecking ball that brings your relationship down

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The wife has a one-night stand while husband is on a business trip and she confesses everything to her husband, damaging their relationship

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The man asks his wife to tell everything to their daughter if she ever wants to reconcile, but the teen ends up resenting the mom, barely speaking to her

The man asks if he’s a jerk for giving his wife an ultimatum, forcing her to confess to their daughter about her affair

The OP (original poster) thought his life was going pretty well. He’d been with his wife for 20 years,marriedfor 16, and together they have a 15-year-old daughter who absolutely adored her mom. Sounds solid, right? Not so fast.

Turns out, during a business trip, his wife took a one-way ticket to bad-decision town and came back confessing that she’d had a one-night stand. Yikes.

Our guy was absolutely wrecked. His wife begged for forgiveness, vowing to do anything, and I mean anything, to save the marriage. But the OP wasn’t about to make any rash moves.

For 3 weeks, he was deep in the emotional trenches, trying to figure out if reconciliation was even on the table. Finally, he decided he’d give it a shot but with one colossal catch: his wife had to confess the affair to their teenage daughter. Ouch!

Now, let’s pause for a second. Imagine you’re the wife here – horrified, right? She was too. But eventually, she caved and sat their daughter down for what can only be described as the mother of all awkward conversations.

The OP didn’t see this coming. He thought he was teaching a valuable lesson about transparency and honesty. Instead, he got a crash course in unintended consequences. So, what’s a guy to do when things go sideways? Turn to Reddit, obviously, and ask the internet: Was he the jerk for making this demand?

Most Redditors? Yeah, they weren’t having it. They were firmly in the “Dude, too far” camp. They argued that dragging thedaughterinto their marital mess was unnecessary and, honestly, kind of cruel. And you know what? I’m with them on this one.

Teen girl sitting on a ledge, wearing a purple shirt, near a skateboard, looking contemplative.

Kids might not always know the details, but they’re like emotional sponges—they soak up everything, whether you spell it out or not.Studieseven back this up: Parental infidelity can leave kids feeling betrayed, confused, and totally insecure.

And teenagers? Oh boy, they’re walking emotional rollercoasters as it is. Learning about a parent’s infidelity can mess with their trust and give them a pretty cynical view of relationships. Translation: Whenparentsmess up, it’s like throwing a pebble into a pond—the ripple effect is real, and it goes way beyond just the parents.

Infidelity is one of the leading causes ofdivorce, and even for couples who stay together, rebuilding trust is like trying to glue a broken vase—it takes time, effort, and probably more therapy than anyone wants to admit.

Expertssay that the betrayed partner often feels a cocktail of anger, insecurity, and self-doubt, while the cheater is busy grappling with guilt and defensiveness. Add bad communication to the mix, and it’s a recipe for sleepless nights and constant tension.

A Reddit comment advises on family issues related to a wife’s affair and child involvement.

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Reddit comment by user RoyalDFZ saying, “That is not a reconciliation,” regarding forgiveness and affair disclosure.

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Reddit comment criticizing a husband’s reaction to his wife’s affair, emphasizing not to involve their daughter.

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Comment about involving children in discussing a wife’s affair, cautioning against it.

Reddit comment criticizing involving a daughter in a marital affair situation.

Reddit comment discussing the impact of a husband’s ultimatum on a child after a wife’s affair.

Reddit comment criticizing parental conflict involving children.

A text comment criticizing a father’s reaction to a wife’s affair, emphasizing poor parenting choices.

Comment criticizing a man’s request for his wife to explain her affair to their daughter.

Comment discussing impact of revealing an affair to a daughter, suggesting it damages family trust and dynamic.

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