Growing up, ourparentsare our first home. As childhood is a vulnerable period, they help us make sense of the chaotic world and protect us from things that we are not even aware of. And life would be pretty bleak without these pillars of support!
But Reddit userObjectiveNational517grew up without the love or support of his mom and dad, who just ignored him. He found a family in his girlfriend’s parents; however, with them soon getting married, she insisted on inviting his toxic parents. He was so furious that he threatened to cancel the wedding.
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The poster’s dad left when he was 4, and after his mom remarried, the stepfather never treated him as his own kid
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Even his mom thought he was a burden and kicked him out when he was in the freshman year of college
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He blocked his family and grew up independently, and 4 years ago, he met a girl whom he decided to marry
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Her family welcomed him with open arms and even she never pushed him about his family as she was aware about how his parents treated him
However, when they were making a list of wedding guests, she kept on insisting that he invite his parents, at which point he snapped and even threatened to call off the wedding
In today’s tragic story, the original poster (OP) tells us that his dad left his family when he was 4 years of age, and when his mom remarried, the stepdad never treated him like his own son. While OP had never received any paternal love, he also thought that he was a burden to his mom who liked the newfamilybetter.
And his fears came true after she kicked him out during his freshman year atcollege. After that, OP says that he grew up independently, but this abandonment from his parents left deep scars on his mental health. He felt he would live alone forever, till he started dating a girl and then decided to marry her.
Hisfiancée’sfamily welcomed him with open arms and she never pushed him about his family as she was well aware of the trauma they had caused him. And all was well for a while till they started inviting people to their wedding. She suddenly started insisting that he invite his parents.
Big shocker, right? Even after he clearly mentioned that they had damaged his mental health, she kept pushing him for it. She even said, “I feel like I might just invite them on my side.” This was probably the last straw for OP because he snapped and said he’d rather cancel thewedding.
Later, OP gave us an update that his sister was manipulating his fiancée into believing that he wanted to reconcile with the family. Also, his mom and stepdad fought over the fact that he was getting engaged but their 27-year-old was still jobless and living with them.
The sister felt that the family would connect in the wedding, so she lied to the fiancée about OP. He was furious and blocked her. He even claimed that his fiancée also had a lot to work on and they were going to get help and go for couple’s counselling.
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Researchsuggests that in the United States, more than 7,000 children are abandoned each year. As shocking as this number sounds, we can’t even imagine the pain and suffering that comes attached to abandonment and estrangement from close family. To get expert insights,Bored Pandainterviewed Nimisha Katare, a psychologist atThe Secret Ingredient.
She said, “Experiencing family estrangement during childhood can deeply affect an individual’s mental health and future relationships. It often leads to diminished self-worth, loneliness, and an increased risk of mood disorders like depression.”
“It can also impair emotional regulation, leading to trust issues and difficulties in managing relationships. These challenges extend beyond personal struggles, affecting overall resilience and coping abilities.”
Nimisha informed us that when a stepparent does not treat a child as their own, it can have significant emotional and psychological impacts on the child. She believes that this situation often disrupts the child’s sense of stability and belonging within the blended family.
While many criticized the actions of his fiancée, there were a few who tried to look at things from her perspective. They said that as she came from a happy family, she couldn’t understand how a dysfunctional family can impact a kid. They stressed that he should sit her down and explain the importance of developing boundaries even with close family as they have caused harm.
Nimisha also said, “As a psychologist, I often emphasize that boundaries are like the walls of a house; they protect your personal space and prevent others from intruding or causing damage. When boundaries are not set, especially with family members who have been emotionally harmful, you risk perpetuating a cycle of hurt and discomfort. And without clear boundaries, the emotional and psychological toll can be severe.”
The Redditors empathized with him and called out his toxic parents and even his fiancée for pushing him
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