Later inlife, when she had a second kid, she truly felt like a mother. Unfortunately, she voiced those exact thoughts out loud to her firstborn son without thinking. He definitely didn’t take it well.
More info:Reddit
RELATED:
Image credits:Mikhail Nilov / Pexels (not the actual photo)
The poster’s mom had him as a teen and lacked the maturity to raise him, so his grandparents looked after him till he was around 12 years old, after which his mom could take him back
Image credits:Anastasia Shuraeva / Pexels (not the actual photo)
Image credits:Filip Wouters / Pexels (not the actual photo)
When he had gone to visit his mother, she told him that now she truly felt like a first-time mom because when she had him, she had been inexperienced and financially vulnerable
Image credits:Quiet-Vermicelli7444
The guy felt hurt that his mom considered herself a first-time mother only after having another kid
The poster did mention that he has a goodrelationshipwith his mom now as a 24-year-old. Earlier on, when she had him at 16, she was not in the right financial and emotional space to be able to look after him. Luckily, her parents took on the responsibility despite being in poor financial circumstances. That’s why she was able to go and finish her college education.
Many teen girls aren’t this fortunate. Either due to lack of support, poor finances, or other responsibilities,pregnant teengirls often have to drop out of school. Around 51% of teen moms don’t get a high school diploma, and many don’t graduate at all. This can severely impact their future and their ability to get work.
It’s also important to note that newborn orinfant careis extremely expensive. It’s hard to imagine a teen mom being able to afford all the costs that come with raising a child while also studying or holding down a job. Luckily, in this case, it seems like OP’s grandparents didn’t burden their daughter with those responsibilities and took it upon themselves to provide.
The poster’s mom worked hard and improved her life so that she could get a place and take her son to live with her. Eventually, she even got married and became financially stable. So, when she had her second child, she was able to afford manyluxuriesfor him that she probably couldn’t give her firstborn.
Image credits:Christian Erfurt / Unsplash (not the actual photo)
Even though it was hurtful, her words made sense. She struggled a lot as a teen mom, but now, as an adult living a stable life, she could finally experience the joys of being a mother. In fact,teen momsgo through intense physical, psychological, social, and spiritual challenges. So, it’s no wonder that the woman feels grateful for her life now.
The guy might have been hurt because he misunderstood his mother’s words and felt like she was saying she only became a mom after having her secondkid. She probably didn’t mean to word it that way, but the damage was done as soon as she blurted it out.
The OP and his mother’s relationship might be alright now, but it certainly is a complicated one. He was also probably forced to grow up and become mature very young just because of his life circumstances. That’s why hearing his mother’s words and seeing the way she was looking after his half-brother probably caused him a lot more pain and jealousy than he expected.
Do you think the author was justified in getting angry with his mother? We’d love to hear your opinion on this situation.
Thanks! Check out the results:
Parenting
