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On the week of his wife’s birthday, this man arranged a dinner for her and invited her family and friends, however, none of them could make it
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His wife said that he should’ve changed the plan to some other day as only one friend showed up, who was also 45 minutes late
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Turns out, his in-laws had arranged a celebration and not invited him, and when he expressed his hurt feelings to his wife, she defended them, pointing out flaws in the dinner that he threw
He later updated that it was a surprise dinner so his wife couldn’t have told him, but he was still hurt and she continued to defend her parents
His wife thought that he should’ve changed the plans to another day as herfamilycouldn’t come. He had also invited all her friends, out of which only one showed up, and even she was 45 minutes late. But then, these things made sense to him as he found out something that really hurt him. Turns out, her family had planned a secret celebration for their daughter on Sunday.
And this was done with the knowledge that the man had a long-standingvolunteercommitment on every Sunday from 8 am to 5 pm. The in-laws were aware that due to this, he would have to decline the invite as he wouldn’t be able to find a last-minute sub for his shift. But what really hurt him was the fact that they didn’t even ask him or even make him aware that they were planning something like this. So, he asked netizens if he was in the wrong for thinking that they could’ve at least asked him about it.
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Redditors had a lot to say about the story. Many of them declared that the man was not in the wrong as he had put in effort for her birthday. And the least his in-laws could have done was tell him about the dinner even if he couldn’t make it. According toJourney Counselling Inc., “When you feel like your spouse sides with your in-laws, this can leave you feeling left out, betrayed, or like you’re not measuring up. These conflicts can also be very hard on the spouse who feels caught in the middle between two people they love and can have a negative impact on the marriage.”
Some netizens sided with the wife. They felt that he should’ve changed the day after finding out that none of her family could make it. They argued that family is important to the wife, so it was obvious that she was not pleased with the dinner plan which was only convenient for him. They advised him that he should’ve informed her family well in advance before finalizing the day and plan. One also said that the wife might have some complaints about him so they didn’t invite him.
From the wife’s behavior, some peeps concluded that his wife and her family were trying to push him out of the relationship and she was going to leave him. They even said that her behavior wasn’t normal.Healthlinesays, “Unhappy marriages can cause significant stress, which can then affect your physical and mental health. It also leads to more marital conflicts.”
What the Redditors commented is not completely baseless, asresearchhas shown that high marital tension in a couple will likely lead to divorce. Whether it be due to family conflicts or something else, couples often experience marital distress. In fact, approximately20%of all married couples experience marital distress at any given time.
Many netizens declared that the poster was not in the wrong for being upset about it, but some said that he was the one at fault and asked him to give more context
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