There’s no question that having a supportivefamilycan greatly impact how a child grows up. Whether it’s coming from parents, grandparents or aunts and uncles, we all deserve to be loved and cherished. But is it actually necessary to have a close relationship with all of your relatives?

One man recentlyreached outto Reddit seeking advice after his sister began pressuring him to embrace the “fun uncle” role. But as someone who’s never liked kids, he was less than thrilled about this idea. Below, you’ll find the full story, as well as some of the replies readers shared.

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But this man has absolutely no interest in being a father figure to his nephew

Text on sibling conflict over taking parental role with sister’s son due to absent father.

Text message discussing brother’s parental role in nephew’s life, highlighting need for a father figure since dad isn’t present.

Text expressing a refusal to take on a parental role with a nephew.

Text discussing involvement of family members in a child’s life, highlighting male figures as parental role models.

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Text conversation about family support and taking a parental role, highlighting uncle vs father responsibilities.

Text from a brother discussing being pressured into a parental role for his sister’s son.

Stressed man with hands on head, feeling pressured about taking on a parental role.

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Text discussing a brother resisting taking on a parental role for his nephew, addressing familial responsibilities.

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Having strong role models is very beneficial for children

Not everyone is able to grow up with a fun aunt or uncle. If your parents were only children or were estranged from their siblings, you might not know what it was like to have your mom’s cooler, younger sister fly in once a year and shower you with gifts. This relationship certainly isn’t necessary for a happy, healthy childhood. But it can be a nice bonus!

According toDr. Axe, the quintessential qualities of a great uncle include being supportive, a great role model, lots of fun to hang out with, loving and caring. They should be involved in their niece’s and nephews’ lives and be a shoulder they can cry on during difficult times.

It’s extremely important for kids to have positive role models, as this can decrease a child’s negative behavior in school and help them grow into resilient adolescents and adults.

In fact,one studyfound that afterfathers, step-fathers and brothers, uncles were the next most prominent role models that young males reported looking up to. Anotherstudyalso revealed that having role models of the same gender can be especially important for young boys.

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But plenty of kids grow up just fine without father figures

However, just because having a supportive father orunclearound is beneficial doesn’t mean that a child cannot grow up without those relationships.ResearchersTimothy J. Biblarz and Judith Stacey were determined to find out how the gender of their parents impacts children. And they found that there was no difference in how kids of heterosexual parents and kids of lesbian parents were raised.

The Good Men Projectcalls out the “myth of the father figure” on their site, noting that he can’t stand alone. Yes, it’s beneficial for boys to have strong male role models in their lives. But that shouldn’t take away from the importance that mothers, aunts and grandmothers play as well.

Children need love and support, period. Whether that’s coming from two moms, two dads or a mother and a father shouldn’t make a difference. We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation below, pandas. Then, you can find another article discussing father figuresright here!

Many readers agreed that the author isn’t obligated to embrace the “fun uncle” role

Text advice about a woman’s request for her brother to take a parental role with her son.

Comment discussing pressure to take a parental role, feeling unfairly accused.

Reddit user’s comment discussing sibling pressure on brother for parental role.

Comment about an uncle not replacing a father, discussing parental role expectations.

“Comment discussing family involvement, uncles not paying attention, and father figure concerns.”

Reddit comment about brother resisting pressure to take on parental role for sister’s son.

Comment advising against pressuring brother into parental role with sister’s son.

Text screenshot discussing sibling role pressure in parenting.

Comment discussing sibling pressure for a brother to take a parental role in the absence of the child’s father.

Reddit comment discussing a brother’s refusal to take a parental role due to absent father.

Screenshot of a forum comment discussing family roles and parental responsibilities.

Reddit comment discussing parental role and family dynamics, emphasizing individual obligations and support.

Text discussing sibling expectations regarding taking on a parental role.

Reddit comment discussing family and parental roles with a critical perspective.

Reddit comment discussing uncle’s role versus a father’s role in family dynamics.

Comment from Dogzrthebest5 discussing discomfort with taking on a parental role.

Text response about not forcing a brother to take a parental role, emphasizing personal choice.

Text discussing sibling pressure on brother for parental role in absent father’s place.

Comment screenshot: “NTA, and this is coming from a self-proclaimed fun aunt.

Text from online forum discussing sibling pressure to take parental role.

Comment on pressure for brother to be a parental role, mentioning expectations and family support dynamics.

Comment discussing sibling involvement in child’s life and parental roles.

Comment discussing parental role pressure between siblings, highlighting inconsistent expectations.

However, some thought that the man was being unfair

Comment on family responsibility and being a father figure, with advice to be more supportive and respectful to children.

Comment discussing expectations of uncles and aunts, mentioning family involvement and personal experience.

Text screenshot about family relationships and the lack of a parental role.

Comment discussing pressure on brother to take parental role with nephew.

Screenshot of a Reddit comment discussing pressures of taking on a parental role.

Comment about sibling being pressured into parental role for niece or nephew.

Text comment discussing a sibling’s role as a parental figure.

Comment on brother taking a parental role with sister’s son.

Comment offering advice on brother taking a parental role for sister’s son, discussing family dynamics and relationships.

Text of a discussion about taking a parental role, suggesting being a “fun uncle” in a child’s life.

Text advising a brother on taking a parental role, emphasizing family relationships and personal growth.

Comment discussing a brother’s parental role with a sister’s son.

Text exchange about responsibility over an unborn child, with skepticism towards taking on a parental role.

Text exchange discussing sibling pressure on taking parental role for absent father’s child.

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