A womanasked the internetfor advice after she had an argument with her husband over breastfeeding in front of his friends. Readers debated his demands and gave OP some suggestions.Bored Pandareached out to OP via Reddit and will update the story when she gets back to us.
Some folks might be uncomfortable with seeing a woman breastfeed
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But regardless of opinions, she should be able to do it in her own home
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The husband seems very controlling
Controlling behavior, after all, is a pretty bigred flag, something that should be avoided. Unfortunately, manipulators are often good at hiding or masking this behavior until the other person has “locked into” the relationship.
After all, based on OP’s statements, the friends did not seem bothered and she didn’t feel uncomfortable. The only person who took offense was the husband. While we will never know exactly why, it’s not too hard to work out some possibilities. First and foremost, he might believe that his wife breastfeeding will somehow “tempt” his friends.
There aren’t good explanations for why the wife breastfeeding would be an issue
Having an attractive partner is, generally, seen as a good thing, but if a person is overcome with insecurity, they might spend a good part of the relationship worried that the person they married is about to replace them. This is ugly and pretty toxic, and we can see exactly how it plays out when the husband starts making unnecessary demands.
Fortunately, netizens sided with OP
The fact that OP had to get a second opinion online is quite telling of just how persistent the husband’s attempts atcontrolare. Unfortunately, through persistence, rhetorical tricks and plain old hostility,manipulatorscan and do batter people down until they think they are themselves to blame. This is not behavior anyone should put up with, but he has pressured her into thinking he might be right. Fortunately, netizens set the record straight and called out the husband’s behavior.
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Many readers quickly sided with OP
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