Fighting with our siblings is pretty natural, after all, where’s the fun in just being simple, goodsiblings? But healthy fights and differing opinions are only good at one level. If one sibling keeps crossing the line constantly and ruining things for the other, then there’s a real problem!
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The poster in this story had planned a perfect proposal for his girlfriend at their favorite spot on a secluded beach
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On the day of the proposal, his sister insisted that she wanted to tag along to click some candid pictures, and although he was hesitant, he later agreed
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It turned out to be a big mistake as she kept acting weird, even pulled the ring out of his pocket, told his girlfriend about it, and completely ruined things
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The couple decided that it would be the best if they didn’t invite her to the wedding, however, when she and the family found out, they accused him of being heartless
The man explained that this was not the first time that his sister had done something unreasonable but there were other attention-seeking instances as well
In today’s story, the original poster (OP) narrated how his sister ruined his big proposal and the consequences she had to face for it. He had planned the perfect proposal at the couple’s favorite location, which was a secludedbeach. When his sister insisted on tagging along to click candid pictures, he was hesitant but eventually agreed.
Turns out, it was a giant mistake. She acted so weird that his girlfriend sensed something was wrong. But the worst thing she did was pull out the ring from his pocket and tell her about it. The man somehow salvaged the situation but hisgirlfriendwas shocked and he was annoyed, as anyone would be.
Later, when he confronted his sister, she had the gall to say that she was just trying to help and he was overreacting! Well, when the time came to plan their wedding, thecouplehad already learned their lesson and together they agreed it would be better if they didn’t invite her, which sounded fair from their perspective.
But this decision didn’t go down well with the rest of the family. Hisparentscalled him “heartless” while the infamous sister had the audacity to state that he was tearing the family apart over a “little joke”. Feeling conflicted, OP asked netizens if he was wrong for doing what he did.
But he also gave some additional information about his sister’s attention-seeking behavior, where she had fake fainted at parties and even set off the fire alarm at his fiancé’s birthday party and ruined it. Additionally, she had also falsely declared she was pregnant at the same party where OP announced his promotion and once even laced the punch withalcoholeven when she knew that the poster was on medication that strictly prohibited drinking.
Her attention-seeking tales were so outrageous that netizens couldn’t believe that a person could do something so awful to their own sibling. They backed him up stating that his parents’ enabling behavior had further worsened her attention-seeking traits. They also said that he had every right to not invite her to his wedding as he didn’t want any unnecessary drama.
It seems like her past behavior of stepping over the line with her brother went unchecked due to her enabling parents. This might’ve also hampered her improvement in understanding the consequences of her actions. The lack of consequences might be one of the reasons why her attention-seeking behavior has not changed for the better over the years.
Swaruti also mentioned, “Attention seeking can happen due to various reasons such as–low self-worth, feeling inadequate and therefore needing to get validation from others, it could also be a consequence of lack of self and social awareness, poor social skills including lack of empathy and poor self-regulation.” And from her repeated detrimental behavior towards her brother, it seems like the latter part of lacking empathy could be the reason.
Whether it’s the enabling parents or her own attention-seeking nature, both can be questioned when it comes to dissecting her mental well-being and the actions that she did just to either constantly ruin things for her brother or simply to draw attention toward her. When we asked Swaruti about how to keep such behavior in check, she gave her professional suggestions.
“Also, encouraging empathy in the child with such tendencies, building their capacity to develop awareness of their actions and the painful/difficult effect it can have on others around them,” she said. Seems like the poster’s sister could’ve been a better person if only she had been brought up in this manner. Alas, the failure of this drew such anger from her brother, that he decided to leave her out of one of the most important days of his life.
Netizens said that he had every right to not invite her to his wedding as her attention-seeking behavior was problematic
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