Everyone has their quirks, preferences and, yes, difficulties. Living with aromantic partnerdoes tend to create some tension that has to be managed, even if you really do love each other. This is just as true when it comes to mental health. Many couples have stumbled into the realization that you can love someone and still find their behavior very, very annoying.A manasked the internetfor advice about his partner’s OCD, after he would constantly make them late for things.We reached out to the man who made the post via private message and will update the article when he gets back to us.RELATED:Having a neurodivergent partner means learning to navigate how they see the worldImage credits:drobotdean / freepik (not the actual photo)But one man ended up leaving his partner at home after his OCD was going to make them lateImage credits:freepik (not the actual photo)Image credits:Fit_Confection_772OCD is often misunderstoodImage credits:Simon Scarfe / flickr (not the actual photo)Just like ADHD, OCD is one of those behavioral disorders that gets often mentioned in media or just online, but is still quite misunderstood. The most prominent and visible part of OCD, as was also seen in this story, is the need to constantly act on “compulsions” which, until handled, cause the person to feeldistressed.Some of the more common compulsions are around things most of us would see as good, in moderation. For example, cleaning your hands (hygienic), checking if the oven is off multiple times (safe) or hoarding (saving things for later.) However, as anyone who has lived with someone like this can attest to, if left unchecked, this can end up being massively detrimental toliving.Hoarding is a great example, with folks living in filth because they just can’t bear the idea of throwing out a newspaper from 1997. It’s important to remember that not everyone with OCD has symptoms this extreme, but it also is an example of what can happen when this condition isn’t managed properly.The “typical” amount of time “spent” (or wasted, depending on your perspective) on compulsions is aboutone hour, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Assuming that the man’s partner in this story also has other compulsions throughout the day, that would make him a pretty normal case.There are ways to help folks with OCD live fuller livesImage credits:freepik (not the actual photo)Fortunately, there are treatments for OCD, starting with the obvious, yet often ignored therapy. Specifically, exposure and response prevention (ERP) is often used for folks who, like this man, struggle with compulsions. In short, the person is exposed to something that tends to trigger their compulsion, be it unwashed hands or impending dinner plans. Exposure to certainstressorscan, in time, build resistance.They are then supposed to, with some guidance andassistance, not act on their compulsion but just move on with their lives. Many specialists suggest this method as it avoids use of medication which comes with the risk of side effects or other complications. Similarly, this “treatment” can be replicated and repeated if the person with OCD develops new compulsions in the future.There are other treatments as well, which all underline the fact that OCD can be managed. This person’s partner does not seem to have a particularly severe case, but the fact that it seems to be getting worse is cause for concern. Unlike many other mentaldisorders, the fact that one can measure this man’s OCD down to the minute is at least an easy way to track its progress.The man does share an update later, which can be found below, and, spoiler alert, it’s mostly positive. Some commenters even suggested that he is a jerk for not intervening earlier, as it’s pretty clear his partner doesneed help. It’s important to note that many neurodivergent people can sometimes struggle to see how their behavior affects others and will not necessarily take the necessary steps to help themselves alone.Most folks thought he had a pointA few thought he was an enablerOther readers just saw it as a messy situation in generalLater, he shared an updateThanks! Check out the results:
Everyone has their quirks, preferences and, yes, difficulties. Living with aromantic partnerdoes tend to create some tension that has to be managed, even if you really do love each other. This is just as true when it comes to mental health. Many couples have stumbled into the realization that you can love someone and still find their behavior very, very annoying.
A manasked the internetfor advice about his partner’s OCD, after he would constantly make them late for things.We reached out to the man who made the post via private message and will update the article when he gets back to us.
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Having a neurodivergent partner means learning to navigate how they see the world
Image credits:drobotdean / freepik (not the actual photo)
But one man ended up leaving his partner at home after his OCD was going to make them late
Image credits:freepik (not the actual photo)
Image credits:Fit_Confection_772
OCD is often misunderstood
Image credits:Simon Scarfe / flickr (not the actual photo)
Just like ADHD, OCD is one of those behavioral disorders that gets often mentioned in media or just online, but is still quite misunderstood. The most prominent and visible part of OCD, as was also seen in this story, is the need to constantly act on “compulsions” which, until handled, cause the person to feeldistressed.
Some of the more common compulsions are around things most of us would see as good, in moderation. For example, cleaning your hands (hygienic), checking if the oven is off multiple times (safe) or hoarding (saving things for later.) However, as anyone who has lived with someone like this can attest to, if left unchecked, this can end up being massively detrimental toliving.
Hoarding is a great example, with folks living in filth because they just can’t bear the idea of throwing out a newspaper from 1997. It’s important to remember that not everyone with OCD has symptoms this extreme, but it also is an example of what can happen when this condition isn’t managed properly.
The “typical” amount of time “spent” (or wasted, depending on your perspective) on compulsions is aboutone hour, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Assuming that the man’s partner in this story also has other compulsions throughout the day, that would make him a pretty normal case.
There are ways to help folks with OCD live fuller lives
Fortunately, there are treatments for OCD, starting with the obvious, yet often ignored therapy. Specifically, exposure and response prevention (ERP) is often used for folks who, like this man, struggle with compulsions. In short, the person is exposed to something that tends to trigger their compulsion, be it unwashed hands or impending dinner plans. Exposure to certainstressorscan, in time, build resistance.
They are then supposed to, with some guidance andassistance, not act on their compulsion but just move on with their lives. Many specialists suggest this method as it avoids use of medication which comes with the risk of side effects or other complications. Similarly, this “treatment” can be replicated and repeated if the person with OCD develops new compulsions in the future.
There are other treatments as well, which all underline the fact that OCD can be managed. This person’s partner does not seem to have a particularly severe case, but the fact that it seems to be getting worse is cause for concern. Unlike many other mentaldisorders, the fact that one can measure this man’s OCD down to the minute is at least an easy way to track its progress.
The man does share an update later, which can be found below, and, spoiler alert, it’s mostly positive. Some commenters even suggested that he is a jerk for not intervening earlier, as it’s pretty clear his partner doesneed help. It’s important to note that many neurodivergent people can sometimes struggle to see how their behavior affects others and will not necessarily take the necessary steps to help themselves alone.
Most folks thought he had a point
A few thought he was an enabler
Other readers just saw it as a messy situation in general
Later, he shared an update
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