Meeting new people can be hard. Finding how to get acquainted can be tricky. And when it comes to dating, it’s even harder – after all, there you’re not only looking for a conversation pal but maybe even for a possible romantic partner.
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If dating wasn’t hard in itself, some people like to make it even harder
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Recently, a TikToker posted a video that went viral about her friend’s dating horror story
Nowadays, it isn’t uncommon to hear that dating is hard. In fact, almost half of Americansthinkdating is harder now than it was 10 years ago.
One of the reasons for this is theparadoxof choice. It means that the more options you have, the harder it is to choose. With dating apps and overall online connectivity, it might seem that we have endless choices to meet someone. And so, it might be tough to choose if you even want to meet anyone.
There’s also stuff like safety. Gettingcatfished, receiving unwanted explicit photos and many similar things are genuine fears nowadays. And let’s not forget things likeheteronormativesocietal expectations, as well as family and personal ones.
In this piece, we’re focusing mostly on those personal expectations. To be more specific, the way they manifest in communicating during dates.
The thing that inspired this topic was TikTok creator@yellerweller’sviral video, which currently sits at 4.8M views. In it, Danielle tells a story about how her friend went on a date with a wannabe manic pixie dream boy (MPDB). In pop culture, an MPDB can bedescribedas “a self-mythologizing ‘free-spirited’ dude who’s determined to make your life magical, whether you want it or not.”
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During this date, the friend started making small talk with the man, but soon he interrupted her saying he wanted to talk about “real stuff” instead
In reality, we could say it’s a man who wants to be kind of mysterious and authentic. Why we dubbed the man in the story this way is because of the way he acted. For the first several minutes of thedate, both he and the woman made small talk. Soon, he interrupted her, because he wanted to talk about meaningful and “real” stuff instead.
Basically, he wanted to show how “unshallow” he is and that he cares about more significant stuff thansomethinglike how many siblings his date has. Well, some people indeed tend todislikesmall talk, as it can feel hard for them. Yet, in this situation, it seemed that the man wanted to look more interesting rather than having trouble with small talk.
But the woman wasn’t planning to let this intimidate her. She asked him what he wanted to talk about, to give her an example. This took the man aback. Then he only said that she should ask him meaningfulquestions, nothing more. So, she asked for examples again. He still had nothing.
So, it became clear that he just wanted to appear deep, but didn’t have anything to base this on. As it was phrased in the video, he simply put on a persona he couldn’t fulfill. No surprise that the woman stood up and left the date – it was unlikely that therelationshipwould go any further.
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So, she asked him what exactly he wanted to talk about, but he didn’t have anything prepared, so she walked out after understanding it was just a move to appear mysterious
Basically, both the interview and the video are stories of men trying to make women look stupid. Luckily, bothwomenwere smarter and were able to rebuff. Still, it’s sad that instead of trying to build genuine connections, people feel the need to put on some kind of persona or try to humiliate others.
So, it’s no wonder that dating is so hard. If other factors don’t make it difficult enough,peoplego around pulling moves like these. Even if that works with the first try, pretending to be someone you’re not is not a long-term solution. In one way or another, your true dullness will be revealed, just maybe not on the first date. And that’s the “best” way to waste someone’s time.
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People online were questioning what drives someone to act this way and recalled other stories of women putting entitled men in their place
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