It’s pretty much every parent’s hope that they can provide for their kids. From basic needs to things like tertiary education, the majority of most parents’ wealth is dutifully put aside so the kids won’t have to go without it, both in the present and the future.
For oneparent, her husband’s habit of spoiling his bio daughter has raised concerns. She says lavishing gifts and cash on her is all a bit too much, especially when she can’t do the same for her two sons. She took to Mumsnet to vent, and readers had plenty to say.
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Almost every parent wants the best for their kids, but this woman thinks her husband takes it a bit too far
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The husband earns a lot more than she does, but the couple keeps the majority of their finances separate
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The husband lavishes gifts and cash on his bio-daughter, frustrating the mom who can’t afford to do the same for her two sons
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The woman claims her husband is turning his daughter into a spoiled little princess
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The woman thinks it’s ridiculous and turns to the web to ask whether she’s being unreasonable
According to OP, her husband earns quite a bit more than she does and they generally keep their finances separate, apart from sharing a joint bank account which they use to cover communal bills, groceries, phone bills, and gym memberships for their kids.
OP goes on to say that she recently found out her husband added his daughter as an authorized user on his credit card. He also spoiled her for her 18th birthday with all manner of expensive gifts, something OP found to be ridiculous.
OP fears it might lead to jealousy between the kids since she can’t afford to do the same for her two sons, so she turned to Mumsnet to ask whether she was being unreasonable in thinking her husband was turning his daughter into a spoiled little princess.
In a scenario like this, it’s surely the dad’s prerogative if he wants to spoil his daughter. He has the means and it’s really nobusinessof OP’s how he chooses to spend his money, as long as he’s contributing to his share of the jointbankaccount. But what are the cons of spoiling your child?
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According to the MedicineNetwebsite, spoiling your child may have long-term harmful effects, including increased dependency, irresponsibility, and increased defiance and disrespect. Despite OP’s concerns, from what she tells us in her post, it doesn’t seem that her husband’s daughter displays any of these undesirable traits.
In hisarticlefor Psychology Today, Jeffrey Bernstein (Ph.D.) presents six strategies to empower your adult child to get a job. These include encouraging open conversations and clear communication, identifying strengths and interests, collaborating to set realistic goals, providing supportive resources, promoting independence, and seeking professional help if necessary.
In herarticlefor Monster, Dawn Papandrea suggests five ways parents can be a part of their child’s job search without taking complete control. For starters, guide them through the hiring process if possible.
“It’s OK to run your kid through a mock interview to ensure they know how to confidently speak about their experiences,” says Laurie Hollister, the associate director ofcareerservices at the New York Institute of Technology.
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