New moms have a ton to deal with, especially after giving birth. From their health to handling a newborn, and coming to terms with their new life, it’s overwhelming for anyone to manage. It’s so important for people around them to make an effort for moms regularly, not just onMother’s Day.
A woman shared her horrible experience of receiving absolutely no support from her husband and how he blew up at her for fainting one day.Bored Pandareached out to the author of the post,u/Ok-Resident2120, to learn more about the situation.
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Woman struggles to look after newborn alone, husband doesn’t help despite being on paternity leave, when she faints at a party, he gets mad at her
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The couple attended a party a month after their daughter’s birth, while at the party the woman blacked out and later she saw her husband “visibly frown” at her
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The poster also shared that her husband had sent her tons of angry and “vile” messages
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It seemed like the distance from her husband was doing her good because she told commenters that she was feeling “a whole lot better than before”
In a final update, she said that her husband’s mother yelled at him for what he put her through but insisted she meet him once, so she took her sister along for safety
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The poster called the police, who took 30 minutes to get him out and still didn’t arrest him
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She eventually decided to apply for emergency custody and split up with him
The author told Bored Panda, “I feel annoyed and hurt and deceived. He promised me that we’d be doing this together. I never imagined him to be the type soselfishthat he could see me suffering and exhausted and still not want to help. How even after my body shut down from all the work he wasn’t helping out with, he still couldn’t care for me. He still didn’t want to help. And it was confusing. He cared for me before. I know he did. So this switch up confused me to no end. I guess that’s it. I’m confused, hurt, and feeling like I was cheated.”
It might come as a surprise, but only 5% ofnew dadsuse their paternity leave. Asurveyconducted found that men always took less than the full amount of leave they were given. Men who had 8 weeks of leave took an average of 7.2 weeks, while those who had 16 weeks took an average of 12.8 weeks. The survey also found that despite 76% of men and 74% of women saying childcare should be shared equally, only half of those men and women actually split the work.
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The poster told us, “he did reach out to apologize, but it all felt half-a**ed. Like he was only saying sorry because he wanted me to come back. Then after I told his mom, all apologies from him thereafter felt like she was forcing him to apologize. And if his apologies were met with silence (of course I wasn’t going to respond, he was acting unhinged), he’d turn aggressive. Threatening legal action, slandering me, cussing at me. It was all disheartening to read from a man who’d seemed solovingjust a few months prior.”
The woman also let us know: “I told my mother and my sister, obviously. My mother was very supportive of me and my sister was very helpful. She took her own [PTO] from work to help me with my child and I’m really grateful for that. She dislikes my (maybe ex?) husband, it’s very clear to me, but she’s kept that to herself. Probably to not upset me.”
Unfortunately for the poster, her sister was right to dislike the man. In her final update, the woman shared that her husband had put on a pretense of being fine when she went to meet him with her sister. Later on, he became aggressive and shoved her and her sister. He even locked himself in another room with theirnewbornand refused to come out. Eventually, the police had to be called and even though they didn’t arrest the man, the experience prompted the woman to think of applying for emergency custody and splitting with him.
The man showed his true colors later on. Apart from being violent and aggressive, he also neglected his wife during a crucial period in her life. According to research, around 40% of women do not seekpostpartum careand many do not have asupport systemeither. This can have a negative emotional impact on the new mom and affect her health too. Which is exactly what happened to the poster.
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