Marriage is built on the promise of sticking together through thick and thin. But even the most lovingrelationshipshit bumps when life gets complicated.
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After earning a bonus for her hard work at a new job, the woman looked forward to treating herself
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But her frugal husband insists she use the money for bills, sparking an argument they’re yet to solve
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For many couples, money is a significant source of conflict
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The couple from Reddit certainly isn’t the first, nor will they be the last, to argue over finances. According to theAmerican Psychological Association (APA)Stress in America survey, nearly a third of adults in relationships report that money is a major source of tension. Research also shows that among sensitive issues, arguments about money tend to be more intense, more problematic, and often remain unresolved.
Hoyt encourages couples to make it a habit to talk aboutmoneyfrequently and early in their relationship. “To have a successful marriage, you need to have good communication—that’s a no-brainer, but it’s still harder than it sounds,” he says. “If one person in the relationship is worried about money and the other isn’t, it’s pretty easy for things to fall off the rails, especially if no one is willing to admit that they have concerns.”
Once you know your budget, it’s easier to make a plan and see where you can improve. You’ll be able to identify where to cut costs and eventually allocate money toward long-term goals like paying off debts, building an emergency fund, or saving for retirement.
Don’t be afraid to reward yourself for reaching your financial milestones. It doesn’t have to be extravagant; even a nice night out or a bottle of wine can keep you excited about handling your expenses. “Celebrating your wins brings you together, helps you stay on track, and reminds you that the struggle is worth it,” says Hoyt.
Lastly, keep in mind that everything you do also has an impact on your partner. “It can be easy to forget sometimes, butmarriageis a partnership,” adds Hoyt. “Not to diminish it, but in some ways, it’s like going into a lifelong business partnership with your best friend, and this means all money decisions affect both of you.” The silver lining is that whatever challenges arise, you won’t have to face them alone.
In the replies, the woman said she puts in more effort than her husband and deserves to spend her own money
The commenters suspected the husband was manipulating her and encouraged her to realize her true worth in the relationship
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