“I [Won’t] Subject My Wife To This Abusive Trainwreck”: Man Skips Sister’s Wedding, Citing Her Rage

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A sister’s wedding invitation was only addressed to the man using his old surname and not his wife’s, so he ended up not going

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After his wedding, the man took his wife’s surname, because it was easier to pronounce

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Everyone liked the change, except the man’s sister, who called the man’s wife abusive

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The sister eventually sent an invitation to her wedding to her brother with no mention of his wife

A man brought his disagreement with his sister, which started after he chose to take his wife’s surname, to the Reddit community online and asked if he was a jerk to decline his sister’s wedding invitation.

The man changed his surname because of practical reasons – his surname was hard to pronounce, while his wife’s was a word. Something along the lines of “Jessica Rabbit” or “Grace Slick”. Even the man’s colleagues thought it was a good idea, commenting it to be “much easier” and “good call”.

After a few months of silence, the man received the wedding invitation, but it was only addressed to him using his old surname, with no mention of his wife. The man told his sister that they would only attend if she apologized to his wife, and after she didn’t, the man refused to go, disappointing the rest of the family.

The man agreed to attend his sister’s wedding if she apologized to his wife

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The man’s sister refused to apologize to his wife, so he declined the wedding invitation

They analyzed the data from Britain and Norway respondents andpointed out the problems of seeing the change in practices only as detraditionalization – the progressive disappearance of tradition, notingthat people, when faced with some new situation or problem, tend to adapt what they already know, or what is easily available, to find a certain solution.

However, using tradition doesn’t make it unthinking or uncritical, as certain parts of it can be examined and may be changed or abandoned.Scholars suggest that people use tradition in various ways when adapting to new situations and specific circumstances that emerge. Therefore, they suggest understanding the discussed marital surname practices to be neither purely new nor traditional, but a combination of the two.

Coming back to the original poster’s story, the community judged not the man, but his sister to be a jerk in this situation.

What’s your take on the situation? Have you experienced family conflicts about surnames? Share your thoughts in the comment section.

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