ANew York veteranshut his eyes forever, knowing that his biggest secret was finally told to the world.
Col. Edward Thomas Ryanof Albany passed away at the age of 85. But before he succumbed to cancer, he penned a message for his loved ones and finally told them, “I was Gay all my life.”
The decorated Armyveteranwas a lifelong resident of Rensselaer and earned a number of prestigious medals throughout his military career.
He was a brother to his five siblings, Rosemary, Cornelius, Joan, Bernadette, and Joseph Ryan, and he was a beloved uncle to several nieces and nephews.
One secret that the brave soldier kept to himself all his life was his sexuality. He met the “love of his life,” Paul Cavagnaro, at some point and enjoyed a 25-year-long relationship with him. However, he kept his romantic life under wraps for decades.
“He was a private person,” his 68-year-old nephew, also named Joseph Ryan, told theNew York Post.
Col. Edward Thomas Ryan of Albany told the world the one secret he kept all his life in his obituary
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Determined not to take the secret to his grave, Col. Ryan crafted a message for hisobituaryto finally come out to the world as gay and tell the world about the man he would be buried next to.
“I must tell you one more thing. I was Gay all my life: thru grade school, thru High School, thru College, thru Life,” read the decorated colonel’s message in his obituary.
He went on to talk about Paul and how he died in 1994 due to a medical procedure gone wrong. The dedicated public servant also noted that he would be laid to rest beside him.
“I was in a loving and caring relationship with Paul Cavagnaro of North Greenbush. He was the love of my life. We had 25 great years together,” he said. “Paul died in 1994 from a medical Procedure gone wrong. I’ll be buried next to Paul.”
In his parting message to his loved ones, the Albany native said he didn’t have the courage to reveal his sexuality in the past because he was afraid of being treated the way others like him were treated.
“I was Gay all my life: thru grade school, thru High School, thru College, thru Life,” the brave soldier said in his parting message to the world
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Over the course of his 85 years of life, theveteranserved with the Army’s 10th Brigade. He was also a retired fireman in Rensselaer and one of the founders and owners of the WHRL-FM radio station in Albany. His repertoire also included being a chef at the East Greenbush American Legion Post #1231, according to hisobituary.
Col. Ryan was diagnosed with intestinalcancer, which he may have contracted due to exposure to Agent Orange in the Vietnam War, according to theNew York Post.
It was also reported that he donated his body to the Anatomical Gift Program at Albany Medical College, which would allow med students to study using his body. Eventually, his body will be cremated and buried beside Paul’s grave.
Nephew Joseph Ryan said the family knew about his relationship with Paul even though he did not “come right out” and talk about it.
“They would go on vacation. Once he did retire, he would take a month off, and they would just put down where they wanted to go, any place in the world,” he told the outlet.
“So, we kind of knew, but he wasn’t one that would come right out and say anything … Our family isn’t one that tries to say anything about people,” he continued.
Joseph Ryan was asked whether his uncle’s parting message to the world came as a shock to the family, to which he replied saying it was a long time coming.
“He was quiet, but he was bold. It’s been inside him all this time,” he said.
As the family already feels the loss of the “cheerful” brother and uncle, Joseph Ryan described him as someone who “always showed up at family events, and he always brought trays of food so everybody was fed well.”
“He always sent his sisters and family flowers and stuff for birthdays, holidays. He never forgot anybody’s birthday,” he added.
The decorated army veteran will be buried next to Paul Cavagnaro, the man he called “the love of [his] life”
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The bereaved nephew also said the family sees the significance in his uncle’s coming out during Pride Month, a time for celebrating theLGBTQ+community’s history, achievements, and ongoing fight for equality and acceptance. Pride Month is celebrated in June each year.
“Thank you for your service Sir. I´m active duty serving in Japan at this time. Tomorrow, I will be hosting a Pride observation at our command and I´m elated to tell your story. We are fortunate enough now to be part of a military that lets us serve our country in full authenticity. We serve proudly in your honor. Thank you for all you have done,” said one person.
“It brings me peace to know that you and Paul are together again. May eternity together be beautiful,” one said, while another wrote, “Rest in pride. How wonderful to have a great love that you so fondly remember 30 years after his death. I wish you could have lived openly in life.”
Another said, “Thank you for your service, and I´m sorry that the world was not always a nice place for us. I hope you and Paul Rest In Peace together, and are able to watch the world change.”
Netizens called Col. Ryan a “hero in life and death” after reading his obituary
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