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He sexually abused me.I told my mother. Begged her for help. She said she believed me, but that she couldn’t take action because “he’s my son.”One day when I was 16, he started in on me as usual. But something abruptly changed. I knew now that my mother wouldn’t protect me, and my brother would never stop—so it had to be me. Some animal part of me woke up. I felt like I’d grabbed a live wire. In that instant, if he took one more step toward me, I was going to attack him like a wildcat. I would fight him until one of us was unconscious or dead. Nothing was said, but he stared at me in shock like he could see it in my face. He retreated to his bedroom. I picked up my backpack and left. I never lived there again, I found my own way in life.That was the last time we interacted. It was 21 years ago.Edit: Wanted to add that, in my experience, estrangement is amazing. You can’t heal from an abusive dynamic while you’re still trapped inside it. Out in the wide world, I discovered a self that was sooooo different from the person I’d learned to be around them. Today I have happiness, stability, and a loving new family. I go months without thinking of it. Choosing estrangement might feel like opening a golden door to the good life you deserved all along. Don’t be afraid to give it a try.
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They asked my kids who are adopted to step out of a family picture “because they are not really family.” I gave them a chance to think about what they just said and silently counted to 10. They doubled down. And that was the last time I (or other family members) spoke to them.
They didn’t like how I posted mean memes about trump.
My brother turned into a parasite, preying on elderly women - our grandmother, a wealthy aunt, and our own demented mother, over the years. Hey even tried to get me to fund his life. When I took over our mother’s finances and refused any payments, he dropped out of my life. He does not need to come back.
At a certain point, I realized every time I talked to my sister she wanted me to do something for her.Every single time. We could not chat without her asking me for a favor of some kind.She’s older than me and got into the habit of bossing me around in our childhood I think.The straw that broke the camel’s back was our aunt. She’s in poor health and her children aren’t taking care of her. My sister straight up said I should be her caretaker. I told her no, for the first time in my life, and she lost her s**t.I held my ground, but she wouldn’t let it go so I eventually blocked her phone number, blocked her on social media, etc.I miss her sometimes, but I also think family should not be about how much you can use one another and she treated me like I was her personal assistant.
Sister being a religious fanatic and being cruel to me and my husband because she hates gay people.
She lied about having cancer. I’ll just never be able to trust anyone like that in my house and around my family. There’s really nothing that can fix it either, I think you need to have something really broken in your brain to do something like that, like unrepairable damage.
I escaped the toxic cult-like religion we grew up in and am healing and doing quite well, he’s still stuck there so that already drives a deep divide just in worldview and lifestyle.He wanted another shot to reconnect last year and I granted it to him, but during a long conversation over dinner I found out that he doesn’t view women as equal to men. His views on marriage and a married woman’s right to autonomy (nonexistent…) are slavery under a different name. A wolf in sheep’s clothing that he thinks is love. I tried everything I had in me to ask him questions and to see if he could realize himself how twisted that view is, since just telling someone they’re wrong doesn’t often go anywhere. Once it became clear he was committed to those ugly morals I told him never to contact me unless he changed. Haven’t spoken to him since.
He bragged about torturing someone. He works as a prison guard and was once spit on. He said he’d beaten the guy with another guard then put him on “property restriction” which was to just strip him naked and leave him cuffed in a cell. But before that he sprayed the man from head to toe, front then back, with pepper spray. Pepper spray is not meant to be left on skin and especially not any mucus membranes. He said the guy was just writhing around yelling. I can’t get past the thought of it.I work in the field of socialwork and do my best to help as many people as I can. And he’s out there proud of having done something incredibly vile.
I don’t need people who make me feel like s**t and treat me like trash in my life.
I haven’t spoken to my sister in a decade, and don’t attend family events where she will be present. She stole my mom’s identity and wracked up almost 20k in unpaid debt. My mom plays is off as a childish mistake (my sister was 27 at the time) and despite my pressing her, my mom refused to press charges. Without her help the police just had to let it go and my mom paid off the debt.
They never reach out and hardly ever reply so I dropped the rope. No animosity, just no desire to keep reaching out and having my feelings hurt. Can’t be disappointed if you don’t have expectations.
Because my sister is a psycho b***h that brings unnecessary drama into everything. I love her but I’m better off loving her from afar. I wish nothing but the best for her, as long as she’s over there and I’m over here.Edit: damn I have a lot more relatives than I thought. My dad cheated on my mom a lot, so it’s not too far fetched lol.
My brother got arrested for distribution of something I won’t type out, but let’s leave it at illegal and unethical images of people below a certain age. The day that happened, I made my first visit to the VA because I had already started compulsively planning to kill him and I needed someone to talk me out of it. And that would’ve left my parents with a dead son and me probably doing life in prison.He got the plea deal of the century and did two years in prison. On the registry for life and some wild probation requirements(no internet access for over a decade). Somehow he got that instead of 200+ consecutive life sentences. My parents have the mindset that he “made a mistake.” I’ve told them there’s a lot of serious mistakes that I could forgive. Hell, even a DUI causing a fatality I could’ve seen past. What he did was a repeated choice with absolutely no excuse.The extended family is divided on it. I think it’s a bunch of cognitive dissonance all around. I don’t speak to him or acknowledge his existence, and some family have tried to get us to reconnect. But I’ve made it clear that it won’t happen but they’re welcome to pick between having one or the other of us around if they keep pushing the topic.
I’ve posted about my half sister years ago. She is nine years older than me and in my life, I’ve lived in the same house as her for less than a year. She lived with her mom most of her childhood. She got married at 21 or 22 years old and was, what we used to call a “bridezilla”. I was around 13 years old and was supposed to be a bridesmaid in her wedding.She was very set on a hairstyle she wanted all her bridesmaids to have, and she wanted them all done at a certain salon. The salon was very far from where I lived and we had to be there early, like 7am. So my mom made an appointment for me to have my hair done at a salon near my house, and even gave them a picture of what my hair was supposed to look like. The night of the rehearsal, my half sister and my mom got into an argument about my hair and my sister kicked me out of the wedding. Her mom told my mom that because I was no longer in the wedding, we had to leave, but my mom pointed out that my brother and dad were still in the wedding, so we didn’t have to.Long story short, her mom slapped my mom across the face, police were called, and nobody from my dad’s side of the family went to her wedding. As adults, she is very close to my dad and brother, but I have next to nothing to do with her. I’ll see her at family get togethers, but I have no interest in having her in my life outside of that. I was still a kid and she did irreparable damage to our relationship because of a hair style. All these years later and she still has not apologized for that night. What’s funny too is that, based on wedding pictures, none of her bridesmaids ended up with the hair style she wanted them to have because everyone had different types and lengths of hair. I hope it was worth it to her.
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I always thought I had a good relationship with my sister. We both moved a lot, and lived in different cities, but we regularly called and sometimes visited. At a certain point we lived in the same city and I visited her a few times, I even remember borrowing her car for something. At a certain point I noticed I was making more of an effort than she was, so I asked her and she said she’s just busy. We had a day planned where she would visit me, so I took off from work but she never showed up. I called and texted but she didn’t answer. 2 days later she apologized and said something came up, she never said what. We made other plans and she cancelled an hour before. I got pissed cause again I took off from work and made arrangements. She apologized, we tried a third time, I told her this was the last chance, she promised to be there but again she didn’t show up. I decided I had tried and I never initiated contact again, it’s now been 15 years since we last spoke. I went to her diploma ceremony a few months after this all happened where we didn’t speak and she actually didn’t even look at me. Nobody in the family ever mentions this, it’s like it never happened.
Let’s name all the reasons.As a kid, he constantly destroyed my things. My Barney stuffed animal was strung up with razor wire to the ceiling fan and beheaded. My huge Pokémon collection, which would’ve been worth millions of dollars today, were shredded and burned.He’s the reason my bio mom abandoned me. He started a dog fight between my biological mom’s pit bulls and blamed me so my biological mother blamed me for the death of her dog, which is a huge reason why she stopped coming around and I didn’t get to see her for 10 years before she died.He, as a 24 year old, knocked up a 16 year old. Tried to say she said she was older but she looks like a literal child so I don’t buy it. Then two years later, he knocks up another 17 year old. Somehow he avoided charges on both, but I think he should’ve been taken out back and taken care of after the first one.He tried to kill someone and is currently in prison.His current girlfriend sends me messages asking me to subscribe to her onlyfans, I block her, and she makes new accounts.
She had a bad habit of continually trying to convince my husband that I was the shittiest person to be married to. She constantly assassinated my character to anyone who would listen.When I finally had enough I went no contact. My husband also did, he was furious with her antics.That driver her a bit nuts. I didn’t care, and instead enjoyed the blessed relief.Some people do not feel good about themselves unless they are destroying others.
Alcohol.My sibling has been drinking for 30 years.She’s in her mid 40s, drunk most days, and posts her relationship drama all over social media.She wore a white ball gown to my wedding, stole items, money, etc from me and my family.I don’t follow them on social media and I don’t see them when I travel near where they live.They are unable to respect boundaries so they are choosing to not participate in my life.
My brother and I inherited a house together when our parents passed away. It’s a nice house in a nice neighborhood with a half acre of property with plenty of room. It would have been ideal because there was no way either of us could have afforded a place like this on our own. But he had to go and turn into a raging, insane, alcoholic. The alcohol over the years has rotted his brain. Everything in the house that broke was my fault according to him. He would be ranting and raving over some stupid thing every day, usually about what a crappy person I am or some decision I made in my life. The situation devolved into threatening violence and death threats. The problem is, the few times he is sober, he does not remember a lot of what happens. I eventually moved out. I’m so much happier now. It got to the point where I feared for my life. So I will not contact him for any reason or respond to emails or phone calls. Usually on Friday nights he leaves me long rambling messages on my voice mail where I can’t even understand what he’s saying because he’s so drunk.
She’s a psychopath. Manipulative, self-centered, lies for no reason but to get you to believe lies, has never once acknowledged fault and always turns it around on her accuser. She doesn’t operate on, “Better to ask forgiveness than permission,”, she’ll lie until she can lie no more and then stand firm at, “What are you going to do about it?” She has never moved an inch for anyone and tramples over everyone deflecting with a, “tee hee!“Nobody likes her but nobody but me understands why they don’t like her and they keep engaging with her to their detriment.
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She decided I married the wrong woman and didn’t want to anything to do with her. Easy-peasy sometimes you get what you ask for. Glad my BIL made the wise choice to file for divorce. I would have had a harder time if I had lost contact with him.
For my dad and his brother I know it’s my aunt. She manipulated my uncle a LOT and she’s a super stuck up b*tch. When my granma (dad’s mom) died she also completely ruined the spirit at the funeral just to cap it off that our families could never get along.It was that moment where I swore to never ever let my relationship with my own brother get bad, and I’ve shared with him that that is how I think and he agrees.
I gave everything for my sister, even put my marriage on the line until I needed her help, which was met with a no sorry, I am busy. I won’t go into the circumstances, but I will say I had my first breakdown as a result of her lack of help. She made several attempts for us to get on with each other. I succumbed to try again several times, but history kept repeating itself. Having her around made me very miserable, so I called and told her I no longer wanted her in my life. A barrage of abuse followed, but she was cut off, and I have been very happy ever since.
They live 5 states away and we’re both lazy.
D***s. It’s a shame, I feel for them, but the stakes are just too high. I have too much to lose. They’ve lied to and stolen from just about everyone else whose given them the opportunity to, so I have to keep away from them. See them at family stuff and am cordial, but I have to understand that the creature inhabiting my brother’s skin isn’t him anymore and hasn’t been for years.
My sister and I are very close in age. We grew up sharing a bedroom, dressing in coordinating outfits like twins, having the same friend groups so sleepovers and activities were shared. When we became adults, we talked every single day on the phone without fail. We even sensed when something was going on with the other, like I’d be in pain unexplainably and call her and she’d say she thought she had a kidney stone, for example.When we were approaching our thirties, she was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. I spent days sleeping on a cot in the hospital with her and I was 8 months pregnant. It took a huge toll on her physically but also mentally. Her personality really changed. I went out of my way to do whatever I could to minimize stress because it would cause flare ups or exacerbations of her symptoms.When our grandfather was dying (who we both adored so much), she was also experiencing a pretty stressful health situation with her child. My mom wanted to call her to let her know grandpa had only days to live and I asked her not to call because she was dealing with this other situation and told my mom about it to help give her context of how close to a flare up she was even though my sister was keeping this situation/stressor to herself.Two days later my sister calls me SCREAMING into the phone. I’d never heard her this way before and I only heard “never speak to me again” before she hung up. My mom called me right after and had gotten the same call. Eventually we figured out that my mom had told my grandmother and aunt what was going on, then my aunt called CPS on my sister for medical neglect. CPS found everything was perfectly fine in the end but the damage was done.On that day, I lost my sister, my grandmother and my aunt. My grandmother saw nothing wrong with what my aunt did and even gossiped to everyone in the family about it so they both got cut off.I think my sister’s reaction was partly Mama Bear protecting her family, partly the effect the MS has had on her mental state. She moved to the country and has alienated everyone else. She has no friends, no job, etc. I think she thinks she’s protecting herself this way. I have such reservations about trying to rebuild our relationship because I don’t want to put her into another flare up that could be pretty severe. It’s been 7 years and I still grieve the loss.
Strange passive-aggressive behavior, not being very interested in being a part of my life or inviting me to be a part of hers. I thought for a long tome it was my fault but finally figured out she has probably has mental health problems.
My brother is an addict. Once my mother died 4 years ago I cut contact with him.
Time. We just went on with our lives and found different friend groups. We never fought or had any resentments.
His wife.
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