If you don’t havekidsof your own, the day you become an aunt or uncle will likely be full of joy and excitement. Finally, there’s a tiny, adorable member of the family that you can spoil without being burdened with all the responsibilities of being a mom or dad! If your sibling doesn’t understand boundaries, however, they might try to pass off some of their parental duties to you…

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Readers shared their thoughts, as well as some suggestions for the author, and she joined in on the conversation

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Later, the woman shared an update detailing how things have been going since she took some advice from readers

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Finally, the author shared another update revealing some changes that are coming to her family soon

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“I Flat Out Said No”: Family Drama Erupts When Man Promises Daughter Will Babysit

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There are pros and cons to using family members for childcare

Being aparentcomes with countless responsibilities. Not only do you have to make sure your children are safe, fed, clothed and overall taken care of, you also have to show them unconditional love and provide emotional support 24/7.

Having kids is never an easy job. But most moms and dads know what they’re signing up for and welcome all of the challenges because they just love their kiddos so much.

First, let’s look at the potential positives. You already trust this person, and you already have a strong relationship. Plus, they are probably familiar with yourparentingstyle, so you might not have to worry about them enforcing your rules. And you may even save some money if they refuse to accept payment or will only take a small fee.

“I Flat Out Said No”: Family Drama Erupts When Man Promises Daughter Will Babysit

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But there are some risks that parents need to keep in mind as well. Many of us don’t actually see eye to eye with our relatives on every topic, so you might hear pushback on some of your parenting techniques. Especially if you’re asking someone from an older generation to watch the kids, they might have different views on how exactly parents should raise children.

And if they won’t accept cash, you might be able to gift them a day at a spa, a gift card to their favorite restaurant, or anything else that says “Thank you.”

We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation below, pandas. How would you have responded if you were in this woman’s shoes? Feel free to weigh in, and then, you can check out another Bored Panda article discussing similar dramaright here!

Readers weighed in with their thoughts, and the author chimed in one last time

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