Unfortunately, getting money and access can breed a lot of envy. Even among your nearest and dearest. One anonymous man went viral after turning to the internet for help. Heopened upabout how he got a sizable inheritance from his beloved grandfather. However, the author’s younger brother began pressuring him to give him over half of the sum because he was desperate for cash due to his debt and situation at home. You’ll find the full story, as well as the internet’s reaction, below.
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A man who received a sizeable amount of money from his grandfather asked for advice after his desperate sibling suddenly demanded most of the cash
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Gratitude is a good antidote for feeling envious about other people’s success
We asked Dogen about how someone might go about keeping their envy in check if it has already started affecting their relationships with their family. According to him, gratitude plays a vital role here.
“First, recognize that envy comes from focusing too much on what others are getting, instead of what you already have. If you shift your mindset to gratitude, you’ll naturally start feeling less envious. Remember, no one’s financial gain can take away from the life you’ve built and the choices you’ve made to get where you are. You have your own financial independence and life path to follow, so don’t let comparisons drag you down,” Dogen told Bored Panda in an email.
If the situation feels unmanageable, it might be worthgetting a financial counselor. They can help mediate the conflict. “Sometimes, an outside perspective can bring clarity and help you see the bigger picture, especially if you’re working toward long-term peace and financial independence of your own. In the end, your relationships are worth far more than any inheritance. Stay focused on what truly matters, and don’t let envy rob you of your peace.”
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There are two main ways that you can start tackling overwhelming debt, but it all starts with finding the courage to face the truth about your finances
Now that you’ve established your budget, you can focus onhow to tackle the debt. According to Dogen, there are two main approaches. The first is the “debt snowball method, which focuses on paying off your smallest debts first to build momentum.” Meanwhile, the second is the “debt avalanche, where you tackle the debt with the highest interest rates to save money in the long run.” Dogen noted that both methods can work: “It’s just about finding which one motivates you the most.”
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If you know that your family is likely to fight over your will, it might be best to sort things out while you’re still alive
According to Investopedia, older relatives “usually know” if the younger members of their family are likely tofight overtheir inheritance. So, they should take steps to minimize all of that potential conflict before they pass away.
They could, for example, express their wishes in a will or set up a trust. Alternatively, they could use a third party like an executor or a trustee to split the inheritance so there are no gray areas or different interpretations.
Meanwhile, the relatives can also give their other family members gifts while they’re still alive to ensure there’s no (or, well, less) displeasure over the final verdict. It’s easier to mediate these conflicts in person than from beyond the grave. In 2024, parents can gift each child up to $18,000 without owing taxes on those gifts, as per Investopedia.
The author’s younger brother is far from the only person struggling with debt. Business Insiderreportsthat the average citizen of the United States has a debt of $104,215, including mortgages, student loans, credit cards, as well as auto loans. The biggest part of the average consumer debt is—somewhat unsurprisingly—made up of mortgages.
The average American debt is more than three times as much as the amount of money that the author’s brother asked for. Though having debt weighing you down can introduce a lot of stress into your life, it’s not an insurmountable challenge. A bit of spending hygiene, better budgeting, and careful saving can change the trajectory of your financial life. However, the effect won’t be immediate. It’ll take many months and years to get back on track.
The author faced a serious dilemma, whether to go forward with his business idea or support his struggling brother
The core issue here is the question of what’s fair. On the one hand, we have the author who put in consistent effort taking care of his grandfather because he loved him, wanted to spend time with him, and wanted to improve the quality of his life. His grandadrewardedhim with $50,000, a very generous sum of money.
That money is his to spend as he chooses. Whether that’s to pursue the woodworking business that he has dreamed of, putting everything into a high-yield savings account, giving it all away to charity, or splitting the inheritance among all of his family and friends. At the end of the day, it’s his decision, and pressuring him one way or another is a tad unfair.
On the other hand, it’s hard to ignore your family’s financial struggles. Human beings are hardwired for empathy, so if you see someone who needs help, your instinct is probably to help them. In this case, the author’s younger brother asked for $30,000 of the $50,000, because he was “drowning in debt” and his wife was pregnant. In short, he was desperate for a cash injection.
However, there are some quibbles with this narrative. For one, if things were that bad, why did the brother not ask anyone for help beforehand? He only asked for help once he knew there was a large sum of money up for grabs.
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Though everyone needs a helping hand from time to time, it’s also important to strive for independence and take care of your own financial well-being
Furthermore, why is it just the older brother’s duty to help his younger sibling out? If the debt situation is so awful, surely, more family members would be interested in lending a hand? Though it’s hard to judge a situation from afar, it feels like there’s a lot of opportunism at play here.
Meanwhile, many internet users also noted that the man’s younger brother is a grown-up who’s responsible for his own actions and financial health. Unfortunately, the author of the story deleted his account after his post went viral, so we were unable to reach out to him for further comment on what happened with his family next.
Most internet users assured the man that he wasn’t doing anything wrong to follow his dreams. Here’s their take on what happened
A few readers had a very different view. From their perspective, the author should have reacted differently
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