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The author of the post and her husband live in a house next to another couple
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The problem is, according to the wife, that her husband treats the woman next door way better than her
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At the same time, the wife herself feels like a side character compared to the neighbor
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So the woman demanded they move immediately – or she files for divorce
But the key word is ‘used to.’ According to the woman, her husband likes the increased attention to his ‘decent deeds,’ and what he simply calls ‘friendly help’ has gradually begun to irritate her – after all, she feels like a third wheel here when her husband is so attentive to his ‘real’ wife.
If you want more examples – voila! Last year, when the two couples went boating, the men went to a local store and asked their wives what they shouldbuyfor them. The author asked for some soda as she was craving it, and the second woman ordered 4 or 5 different things.
As a result, firstly, it was not her own husband who made the purchases for her, but the OP’s spouse, and secondly, he didn’t fulfill his wife’s only request – he simply forgot about it. Moreover, the man refused to return for the purchase, coming up with a bunch of excuses, like that it was too late…
No, the author is pretty sure thather husbandisn’t cheating on her, but she was so tired of the current situation that one fine day she demanded that they move. The spouse, however, says that her reproaches seem ridiculous (the woman has expressed her complaints more than once), and that they cannot afford to move. But the OP is nearly adamant now and, moreover, threatened the husband with divorce if he doesn’t agree with her.
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“We shouldn’t treat our loved ones less kindly than we do strangers. But the reality is that we often do,” Alex Lickerman, M.D., a general internist and former Director of Primary Care at the University of Chicago, writes inhis articleon Psychology Today. “Nothing, it seems to me, could be worse than reaching that point, having the parts of life that don’t matter stripped away from your concern, and realizing just how poorly you treated those who deserved your best.”
“I’d like to call attention to the fact that people often treat strangers better than their own spouses. Strangers who may be a million times worse than your spouse, strangers with whom you have no connection – hear this carefully – are getting better treatment from some of you than your spouses are getting,” Sara Daigle, an author and speaker, writes for herpersonal website. “That very stranger would keep distance if you treated him/her as you treat your spouse. Withdrawing to avoid more pain is a natural response of the human heart.”
By the way, the author replied that her husband didn’t consider the very case worthy of therapy, and didn’t believe in its effectiveness at all. And yet commenters do believe that something needs to be done here. “He’s clearly infatuated with the woman next door, and impressing her matters more to him than being a decent spouse to you,” one person pondered.
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