Joint custody is an arrangement under which both parents are responsible for raising their children after a divorce or separation. It’s often seen as a way to provide the children with a stable and supportive environment; however, parents need to maintain a high level of communication and cooperation to make it work.
For the most part, Reddit userKittenBox8and her ex-husband managed to overcome their differences and collaborate in raising their kids. But when the dad wanted to take the little ones to his family reunion, their efforts broke down, causing a lot of fighting.
These two parents tried their best to provide their kids with a stable environment after their divorce
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But one day, their joint custody arrangement stopped working
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Tension is difficult to avoid when raising kids post-divorce
“Collaboration can make the custody arrangement work better, providing that the two parents can work together and agree on what is beneficial for the child(ren). However, I find that people who work collaboratively rarely get divorced,”saidChristine B.L. Adams, MD, who is a child and adult psychiatrist practicing in Louisville, Kentucky. “They work things out in their relationship, including issues over raising children. They are content to be married. They achieve harmony and workable solutions for their difficulties.”
According to the psychiatrist, people who divorce have already established they cannot get along with one another and enjoy their lives together. “They do not see eye-to-eye on so many concerns that they dissolved the relationship. Divorced couples disagree with one another on many fronts. Often, they have distinct viewpoints on how to help and raise their children. Such childrearing differences may predate their divorce or even be the cause of their divorce.”
“I wish that joint custody worked better … I wish marriage and mate choices worked better, too, so that children did not have to go through these post-divorce times of turmoil with their parents,” the psychiatrist explained.
In an ideal world, joint custody works. How close parents get to that perfect model is up to them. But as this Reddit post shows, it’s always facing the possibility of conflict.
Luckily for these children, their situation resolved itself.
Later, the woman released an update on the situation, saying that she had reconsidered her decision
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