Languageis our primary tool for communication, and when partners don’t share the same mother tongue, it can make the relationship more interesting for sure, but it can also be more challenging. Often, not being able to speak in the same first language can lead to misinterpretations and frustration that create strains on thecouple.
Surprisingly forredditor False_Quiet526and her boyfriend, the fact that she didn’t speak his mother tongue was no problem, as they both perfectly knew English. That is, until she overheard his cheating confession in a language she supposedly didn’t understand.
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When partners don’t speak the same mother tongue, it can make the relationship more challenging
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What this woman didn’t expect is that her boyfriend would use his mother tongue to flaunt the fact that he cheated
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Around 43% of the world’s population is bilingual
Around 43% of the world’s population is bilingual, so it’s almost a 50/50 chance that one’s future partner is going to be one. As relationships become moreculturallyand linguistically diverse, they may face more challenges, as divorce rates for multilingual couples are higher.
A language barrier may make it more difficult to create the kind of deep connection that can be fostered in partners who share the same mother tongue. The shared language that the couple decides on communicating with (e.g., English) may lack the concepts and words that exist in their native ones. This can make it more difficult to clearly communicate what one wants to say, leading to frustration and even misunderstandings.
Research also found that an individual’s personality can unconsciously change when they switch between languages. A person can feel more confident and assertive when speaking, for example, Spanish, and feel more timid and introverted when conversing in English. Not being able to communicate with a partner in the same language may mean that they won’t ever know their full and true personalities.
In fact, the cultural differences between the couple may be an even bigger barrier than language, says professional counselor Dr. Jane Elizabeth Dum. Those who come from different backgrounds might have learned to communicate, express themselves, and voice their affection in varying ways. Navigating the partner’s differences in values, beliefs, and behaviors may require more patience and understanding, as they might not realize how different their worlds were before meeting each other.
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Dating someone from a different culture can open up a person to new experiences and worldviews
Of course, being in a multilingualrelationshipcan have its benefits too. Dating someone from a different culture can open up a person to new experiences and worldviews. Even though the couple might have differing perspectives on the world, it can be a great opportunity to find value in things one may have overlooked while being comfortable in their own culture without challenging their established views.
However, there might come a point when this bond may benefit from learning each other’s languages. If the partners feel like inside jokes or random slang words are no longer sufficient, it might be time to crack open a textbook or download Duolingo.
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Some readers supported the woman
While others thought they were both jerks for their own different reasons
Later, the woman posted an update
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The update received all sorts of reactions
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