Few things are more important in aromantic relationshipthan mutual trust. Without it, the couple ought to experience troubles sooner or later.
For this woman, the thought that her husband might be lacking trust came when she founda trackerin her car. After the discovery, she was not 100% sure whether it was lack of trust or him just being concerned about her safety, so she turned to the Mumsnetcommunity, asking if she was being unreasonable to think that he was tracking her. Scroll down to find the full story and the netizens’ reactions below.
Scroll down to find the full story and the netizens’ reactions below, where you will also findBored Panda’sinterview with a licensed clinical psychologist and an Associate Professor of Psychology in the Department of Psychology at University of Kentucky,Dr. Shannon Sauer-Zavala, who was kind enough to answer a few of our questions on the importance of trust in a relationship.
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This woman realized her husband might be lacking trust when she found an AirTag in her car
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Trust is the cornerstone of most interpersonal relationships
Upon finding the AirTag, the woman didn’t know what to think – was her husband concerned for her safety or was hesuspiciousof something? Though she didn’t have the answer, the OP was seemingly leaning towards the latter, as her spouse did not tell her anything about the tracker. If that was actually the case, such behavior would indicate a lack of trust in the relationship, which is arguably crucial for the success of any close relationship.
“Without trust, we can’t fully open up to people,” a licensed clinical psychologist, Dr. Shannon Sauer-Zavala, pointed out in an interview withBored Panda. “When we can’t truly be ourselves, we can’t settle in and get comfortable in relationships.”
“Importantly, trust is not all or nothing,” Dr. Sauer-Zavala continued. “We may fully trust someone to pay us back or help with a project at school or work, but not feel comfortable sharing sensitive information about ourselves with them. This is completely normal. The best—and the only—way to develop trust with someone is simply to trust them and see how they respond. If they respond well (for example, they pay you back, they provide good advice when you’re upset), then you might feel comfortable sharing more and more. If you have had mostly positive experiences with trust in your relationships, you tend to approach new people with openness.”
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Whilepositiveexperiences typically result in people approaching others with openness, having previously dealt with broken trust can negatively affect the way individuals view other people and relationships. “For instance, if your partner was unfaithful in a romantic relationship, you may have your guard up around new partners. You may be more likely to interpret neutral events—for example, your partner returning home from work late—as a sign they may be cheating on you,” Dr. Sauer-Zavala said.
It’s unclear whether or not the OP’s husband had negative experiences in the past and what was the reason for leaving the tracker in his wife’s car. It’s also not specified what the woman decided to do with it, but for that, fellow netizens had some ideas, which they shared in the comment section.
Fellow netizens shared their opinions, some thought she should play with the AirTag to teach the husband a lesson
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