Healthy eating and nutrition are very sensitive topics, and nearly everyone seems to have an opinion on them. If you want to change someone’s mind about embracing a healthier diet, you have to be respectful and see them as your equal. A holier-than-thou attitude and insults will only drive theotherperson away. Besides, nobody wants to be angrily talked at during a social event orfamilygathering.
Internet user u/IFeelBad95askedthe AITA online group for a verdict on whether they were in the wrong for leaving theirvegansister-in-law ‘Erin’ out of the family barbeque. The reason? The woman’s incredibly aggressive attitude and non-stop shaming of her relatives. Scroll down for the full story, two very important updates, and to see how the net reacted to the spot of family drama.Bored Pandahas reached out to the author for comment, and we’ll update the article as soon as we hear back from them.
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A person asked the internet whether they were wrong not to invite their relative to a barbeque due to their over-the-top and militant vegan beliefs
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The host shared more information about the family drama later
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Before you start making radical changes to your diet, talk to a healthcare professional. And always be aware of what your body needs
There are lots of generalhealth, diet, and fitness guidelines that you can (and should!) follow to live a better, longer, and higher-quality life. That being said, you also have to take into consideration that your body’s needs may not be quite the same as someone else’s.
Different people have different lifestyles, allergies, genes, nutritional deficiencies, etc. Just like you wouldn’t encourage a person with lactose intolerance or a nut allergy to drink milk or eat peanuts, you wouldn’t push one particular diet on people who have very different relationships with exercise.
Similarly, someone with a vitamin B12 or iron deficiency would focus on certain foods far more than an individual who has healthy levels of both in their system. Supplements work, but they have to be taken in conjunction with a balanced andnutritious diet. Sometimes, giving up red meat or seafood isn’t an option from a dietary perspective, even if you support veganism ethically.
There is no one-size-fits-all approach, though it’s definitely a good idea to try to eat healthier, move more, stay hydrated, get plenty of sleep, and invest in your positive relationships.
So, not only is it vital that you listen to what your body is telling you, but you also shouldn’t make any drastic changes in your lifestyle and diet without consulting your doctor or a health specialist. What changes you make and how quickly you can introduce them into your life will depend on your goals.
Introducing a few more greens, legumes, seafood, and fiber into your life while eating slightly less junkfoodis fairly easy to do. Meanwhile, moving past any deep-seated addictions to sugar, caffeine, processed foods, nicotine, and alcohol will require far more time and effort to make your healthier habits stick.
And, in some more serious cases, you may need to make your lifestyle changes in sync with therapy so you can reframe your relationship with what you consume.
Generally, omnivores are more accepting of vegans who avoid animal products due to to health concerns rather than ethical reasons
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The psychology behind the relationships between vegans, omnivores, and vegetarians is fascinating. The BBCreportsthat many meat-eaters find explanations for why eatinganimalsis ‘correct,’ and part of their chain of thought is that they view vegans in a negative light.
Psychologist Julia Minson from the University of Pennsylvaniastudied attitudestowards vegans. 45% of participants had something negative to say about vegans’ social characteristics and included descriptions using words like weird, arrogant, preachy, militant, uptight, stupid, and (somewhat bizarrely) sadistic.
Meanwhile, the BBC writes that non-meat-eaters tend to think they’re better than other people. For instance, vegetarians tend to rate other vegetarians asmore virtuousthan non-vegetarians. And both omnivores and vegetarians tend to rate vegetarians as more virtuous yet less masculine than omnivores.
However, the relationship between vegans and vegetarians can be quite tense, too. The former can think that the latter group is hypocritical.
If your goal is to change someone’s perspective about food and health, you can’t act judgmental and holier-than-thou
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If you blame someone for (not) eating meat or any other product, they’ll get defensive, ignore you, or lash out at you. What you want is a genuine dialogue, not a monologue where you show off how much ‘better’ and morally upstanding you are than the people you supposedly care about. Nobody likes a show-off.
Then there’s the issue of timing. Shaming people about what they’re eating at a family barbeque is ridiculous. It’s a get-together that’s meant to bring people closer, not push them away. If you have genuinely good recommendations for how someone can live longer and feel healthier, you can always find a less public way of approaching those topics.
What are your thoughts about the entire family drama, dear Pandas? Have you ever not invited a relative or friend because they’re overly passionate about one cause or another? What do you think is a good way to broach the topic of healthier eating and living in the first place?
The author added even more context as the story started going viral
A large chunk of readers thought that everyone was to blame and could have handled things far better
Not everyone was on the same page. A handful of internet users called the author out
A bit later, the author of the story shared a couple of important updates
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