It’s totally normal to get caught up in the thrills of a new romantic endeavor and want to spend every free second with your partner. However, we have to remember that there are other important people in our life, including our precious friends.
One guy maintained contact with his buddies through summer trips. They stuck with him even after he had lost his leg and had a special place in his heart. However, as one of their journeys was approaching, the guy’s girlfriend wanted to join the gang.
SSo much so that after he said no, she even hid his prosthesis in an attempt to make him stay as well. As the guy explained in his post on the subreddit ‘Am I the [Jerk]?‘, this quickly escalated into a full-blown fight.
As per tradition, this guy and his friends go on a trip every summer
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A happy life requires friends outside of your romantic relationship
Psychotherapist April Eldemire, who specializes in marriage and couples’ issues, agrees that having friends outside your marriage is not only important but healthy for you and your partner.
“Evidence clearly shows that our lifespan, or how long we live, and healthspan, how long we maintain good health, are attributable to many obvious lifestyle choices, like exercise, good nutrition, and the avoidance of smoking. But research shows that strong social ties improve your lifespan, too,” Eldemirewrote.
The number of friendships is important, but their quality might matter even more.
Aclinical reviewof nearly 150 studies (involving over 300,000 people followed for an average of more than seven years) discovered that people with strong social ties had a 50 percent better chance of survival, regardless of age, sex, health status, and cause of death than those with weaker ties. Simply put, the health risk of having few friends is similar to smoking 15 cigarettes a day, and more dangerous to your lifespan than being obese or not exercising.
“When you develop a friendship with someone who shares similar interests, you’re creating the opportunity to learn, grow, and evolve,” Eldemire said.
According to her, friends matter to people in relationships because:
Too bad the Redditor’s girlfriend didn’t think about these things.
After reading the guy’s story, people expressed their support for him and said he did nothing wrong
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