Air travel has a host of annoyances and a few luxury perks, if one is willing to pay for them. But what happens when some people in a group fly first class, “leaving” the others behind in economy?

A man wondered if hewas in the wrongwhen his surprise first-class ticket upgrade didn’t go over so well. While his girlfriend loved it, her mother, who didn’t get an upgrade, hated the entire concept. Readers debated whether his surprise plan could have used some more time on the stove, or if this was really just a case of jealousy.

Traveling in a group comes with the dangerous pitfall of figuring out what sort of tickets to purchase

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

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A man wanted to surprise his GF with first-class tickets during a family vacation

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

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Economy class does mean sitting with a horde of other passengers

While jealousy is never a nice attribute, some people do struggle with the stressors that come from not flying first class. Air travel itself has numerous discomforts, seats that are never quite big enough, insufficient legroom, and that ever-present hum of the engines. “Hell is other passengers,”to paraphrase Jean-Paul Sartre. Certainly, there is an abundance of cases where travelers disrupt entire flights, sometimes due to air rage, and sometimesdue to incompetent airlines. Every once in a while, you even get both.

This is partially why first class seems like more of a luxury than it really is. Often, you are paying hundreds of dollars more for a few hours in a nicer chair and a “free” meal, which is anything but free. Nevertheless, travelers love it for a variety of reasons. Certain airlines offerwhat amounts to a private suite in the air, with showers, heated floors, and a bet. But very possibly, a major appeal of first class is just the ability to create some distance between yourself and other passengers. Screaming babies, snoring individuals, or cases of outright air rage are all possible, so a first-class seat is just insurance.

The actual mechanics of boarding a plane may actually cause some amount of distress. For those who are unfamiliar, on most planes, people in first class board first, and their seats tend to be toward the front of the plane. Only then the “regular folk” are allowed to get aboard, having to walk past all the people sitting in “better” seats. Not only do they have to wait longer, but they have to literally walk past first class. It’s like taking a tour of accommodations you will never be able to afford.Psychologists believethat this actually causes enough anger and annoyance to explain some amount of “air rage.”

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

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But jealousy at the people in first class is immature

So the gap between first-class seating and economy creates a cycle of supply and demand. The increasingly luxurious first class accommodations highlight the gap between haves and have-nots, while at the same time potentially creating the sort of horrible traveler behavior that almost justifies the cost of a better ticket. This isn’t to shift the blame away from hugely immature fliers, as an airline can’t really be blamed for grown adults acting like spoiled, aggressive children.

That being said, cases of “air rage”are on the rise. In the US, for example, unruly passengers have gotten aggressive enough that about 30% of them actually cause flights to be diverted. A simple Google search will yieldstories of brawls between passengersand even what looks likea pitched battlebetween different groups at an airport. So from a larger perspective, OP was lucky that at most he got a somewhat negative comment from his MIL, not, for example, an invitation to a duel.

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

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Some readers thought the MIL was just jealous

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

While others thought the whole thing could have been avoided

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

A few commenters thought OP was at fault and should have just waited

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

Guy’s Sweet Surprise For His GF Turns Sour After MIL Gets Mad For Being Excluded From 1st Class

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