Breakups can be hard but, in some instances, they’re a way to break free from arelationshipthat’s no good for you. This is especially true if your partner is manipulative, abusive, or always tries to control you. If that’s the case, you need to get out.

One woman was in a 14-year relationship with her high school sweetheart when he decided to split up with her. In the aftermath, he drunkenlyassaultedher, so she slept with someone else to put a decisive end to things. She’s since turned to Reddit to ask if that was a jerk move.

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14 years is a long time to be in a relationship, but this woman found a decisive way to end hers

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Her boyfriend split up with her, claiming he wanted to take a 6-month break and told her not to sleep with anyone else or she would be “tainted”

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In the aftermath, he drunkenly assaulted her, so she immediately slept with someone else, ensuring her abusive boyfriend wouldn’t want to take her back

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The now ex-boyfriend accused her of “ruining everything” and told her that he even had plans to propose, but the woman was unmoved

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She said she didn’t think he was worth any more of her time, but still turned to netizens to ask if hooking up with someone else to end things was a jerk move

She says he told her he realized what a terribleboyfriendhe had been, and he wanted the time and space to become someone she deserved. That was in June, and OP gave him until July to find a place and move out. Then, onedrunkennight, things took a turn for the worse when he assaulted her, forcing her to stay with her family while he moved out.

Well, OP immediately slept with someone else. Now her ex is telling her that she’s “ruined everything” and revealed that he had plans to marry her. OP says she doesn’t think he deserves another minute of her time but asked Redditors whether or not what she did was a jerk move.

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If you’ve ever been through a messy breakup, you’ll know just how complicated things can get. Now imagine the baggage that comes with a 14-year relationship, especially when you share things like bank accounts and power of attorney.

From OP’s post, it seems she had to get out, and her ex gave her the golden ticket. By sleeping with someone else, she let him know that there wasn’t a hope of reconciliation.

The world is full of breakup horror stories, some funny, most awkward. In her article forThought Catalog, January Nelson shares several hilarious breakup stories that might make you feel better about your imperfect love life.

A few of the best include someone who got dumped for eating pizza with a knife and fork, another person who was unceremoniously rejected for telling her partner she didn’t like Star Wars, and one unfortunate individual who was sent packing for making a girl smile too much – apparently, she had braces that aggravated the inside of her mouth.

In her article forRefinery29, Sara Coughlin lists breakup stories that are guaranteed to make you cringe, while this article fromBored Pandareveals 40 moments that ruined relationships – don’t miss the expert interview with Dr. Cortney S. Warren.

While some might consider OP’s actions extreme, you can’t really blame her for taking the nearest exit from her abusive relationship.

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