Most people look forward to theirwedding day, imagining a future filled with love and happiness.
ThisRedditorwas no different—until her fiancé revealed a stomach-turning family tradition. Before they could marry, his father and male relatives needed to inspect her for “purity.” Just a little test to prove she loved him.
Horrified, she turned to the internet, desperate for advice.
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The woman was looking forward to her wedding day, excited to start a new life with the man she loved
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Until her fiancé revealed a stomach-turning family tradition
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Virginity testing is a form of gender discrimination
The idea that a woman’s virginity can be “verified” is one of the most harmful myths that has fueledgender discriminationfor centuries.
For starters, virginity itself isn’t a medical or scientific term. It’s a social construct. While different cultures attach varying levels of significance to it, it has no actual impact on a person’s health.
Beyond being medically baseless, these tests are a blatant violation of human rights. In cases of sexual harassment, they can even re-traumatize survivors, forcing them to relive their experience. Many women experience long-term psychological, emotional, and social consequences, including anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder. In extreme cases, some face honor-based violence or even take their own lives as a result.
However, the misinformation persists. It wasn’t until 2021 thatPakistanbanned virginity tests for sexual harassment survivors in court cases. Meanwhile, the practice continues inseveral countriesacross Asia, the Middle East, and parts of Africa. Even in theUK, private doctors offer virginity tests, providing medical reports to confirm an “intact” hymen. And for those who fear the social consequences of not passing, there’s an option to undergo hymen repair surgery—at a cost of around $7,000 (as of 2022).
Clearly, there’s still work to be done. Awareness needs to be raised, and governments must take action to ban virginity testing altogether. But more importantly, real social change is needed—because as long as women are judged and shamed based on an outdated and damaging myth, the fight isn’t over.
Later, she updated that she had refused to take the test and broke things off for good
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