Everything on Earth, even the best things, come to an end sooner or later. Death is actually an integral part of our existence. And no matter how muchwise peoplesay that for a highly organized mind death is nothing more than a new adventure, it’s not easy to come to terms with the passing away of our loved ones. It’s damn hard to be honest.

The story we are going to tell you today, from the userAnonymous75, is about exactly this. Our heroine has a mother-in-law who became a widow 4 months ago—and since then she continues to mourn her late husband, not even realizing that constant grief actually wears out the ones around her…

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The author of the post has a mother-in-law who lost her husband around 4 months ago and has been mourning him ever since

Grieving mother-in-law standing by a casket with flowers, looking emotional and contemplative.

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The main problem, according to the author, is that the lady keeps expecting her and her spouse to console her literally every given day

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The author understands and shares this deep grievance, too, but she thinks that this situation is starting to wear them all out

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So the woman considers setting some boundaries with her MIL—maybe asking her not to visit their place daily

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However, the author also assumes she might look heartless and cruel, so she sought support online

So, the Original Poster (OP) says that about 4 months ago, her father-in-law passed away, and since then her mother-in-law has not stopped mourning him. Relatives—also the author’s family—have provided and continue to provide her with maximum help and support, but now, months after the funeral, the OP feels emotionallyexhausted.

The thing is that in recent months, literally not a day has passed without the MIL visiting their home to seek comfort from the author or her son. Our heroine’shusbandwas perhaps the hardest of all – he had to cope with his own grief over the loss of hisfather, and with the support of his mother too.

And themothercould literally call at any moment and tearfully beg him or the author to come to her. Simply because she feels bad and needs consolation. The original poster saw how her husband was torn between this support and his own work, children, and hobbies, and with each passing day, she increasingly asked herself just one question.

Grieving mother-in-law sitting by a lake, looking contemplative and concerned.

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In any case, experts say that experiencing the death of loved ones is an incredibly difficult experience, and each person does so in their own way. “For some people, mourning can go on so long or be so distressing that it becomes unhealthy. This prolonged and intense reaction to loss is known as complicated grief,” thisdedicated poston the National Institute of Aging website says.

“People with this condition may be unable to comprehend or accept the loss, experience intensesorrowand emotional pain, and have trouble resuming their own lives and making plans for the future. Complicated grief can be a serious condition. Those who have it may need additional help to overcome the loss. If sadness is making it difficult for you to carry on in your day-to-day life, help is available,” the same source claims.

In these cases, there is grief counseling, which really helps people cope with unbearable sadness more effectively. Regular talk therapy with a grief counselor or therapist can really help here. On the other hand, another reasonable question arises—how can the author persuade her MIL to take such a step, and what kind of reaction might it cause on her part?

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