Do you remember, a couple of days ago, Itold youabout a girl to whom her mom ‘gifted’ a name that was unusually ornate in writing, and for which she was subjected to severe criticism and insults when she legally changed it to the usual spelling? If not, you can read the story here.
So, today we are faced with a diametrically opposite situation: a teenager with an unusual name, which her mom also gave her, but which she, however, really likes. And her grandparents, who show extraordinary zeal in trying to ‘rename’ their granddaughter in a way that only they like. However, let’s talk about everything in order.
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The author of the post is a 15 Y.O. girl who recently had to move to her grandparents’ house
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However, the elder couple wasn’t happy with their granddaughter’s ‘bizarre’ name and tried to ‘rename’ her
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According to her grandparents, the ‘proper’ names for the girl were Emily or Elizabeth
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However, the teen rejected all these attempts – and then the grandparents started addressing her directly as Elizabeth
The girl refused to answer in this case – and the grandparents dubbed her ‘impolite’ and even ‘rude’ for doing so
Let’s now return to the present day. The author’s mother, unfortunately, for health reasons, cannot take care even of herself, so the girl moved to hergrandparents’house. And literally from the first day in the new place, countless persuasion and suggestions about ‘renaming’ took place…
They simply began to address their granddaughter as Elizabeth – and when she refused to respond to this name, they told her off, reproaching her for being ‘rude’ and ‘impolite’. According to her grandparents, when elders approach you, you should answer – and in adulthood, they believe, living with the name Elizabeth will be actually way easier than remaining Astraea. But Astraea hasn’t given up, and has turned online for moral support and advice from netizens.
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“This. Is. Simply. Inappropriate. Only this way, and no other way,” says Irina Matveeva, apsychologistand certified NLP specialist, whomBored Pandaasked for a comment over this situation. “At the end of the day, the name a person has is their own business, and no one else’s. Yes, there are situations in adult life when a more ‘traditional’ name makessome situationseasier – but in the end, imposing your point of view on others is incredible rude.”
“Unfortunately, many people of older generations, having what they call ‘life experience’, are sincerely convinced that their experience remains relevant many years and even decades after it was obtained. And this is not always the case. What I can wish for this girl is to remain firm and strong in upholding her personal boundaries, and perhaps turn to the authorities for support if such cases continue,” Irina summarizes.
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