Kids have reallycuriousminds. I mean, sure, they do strange things we can’t understand at times, but they are not afraid to explore new things and get new experiences. That’s how they learn and grow. But when they are constantly restricted, it can’t be good for them.
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The poster of this story is close with her son and daughter-in-law and they share a good relationship
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But the daughter-in-law has a rule that the poster shouldn’t do any “firsts” with the kid as she wants to be present at every milestone
The daughter-in-law said that the poster is taking away memories from her and also claimed that she is blackmailing her
But things started spiraling a little because of a rule that thedaughter-in-lawhad set up. She wants to be present at every “first” thing that the kid experienced. However, her definition of “first” includes the most mundane things like playing with a new toy or going to the park. And without doing these things, there’s nothing else that OP can do with him.
But the strange thing is that she herself never does these things with thekid. OP also wondered what they have been doing all day long at home, because whenever she mentioned doing anything, the mother would say she wanted to be there. But later, she never did it. Now, the kid ends up just sitting at the poster’s house, doing nothing and getting bored. It’s obvious that she doesn’t like seeing him this way.
So, she told the mom that she should relax the first rule a bit. Well, the woman wasn’t happy to hear this. She said that thegrandmawas “trying to take memories and special moments away from her”. OP replied that she was not trying to overstep, but a bored 3-year-old is a lot to handle.
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She said, “Not giving the child a plethora of sensory stimulation will stunt their growth as 80% to 90% of an individual’s brain grows between the developmental ages of 0 and 5.” Well, it seems that the netizens’ concern was rightly placed about the kid in the story.
Some of the commentators also highlighted that if she wants to be present for every small milestone, then she should start doing these activities with the kid herself. They found it illogical that she was neither doing the right things necessary for the child nor letting the grandma do it. And honestly, our hearts go out to the little kid, who doesn’t even know what’s happening.
We asked Anjali Abigail about the impact it would have if he’s not exposed to stimulating activities. She informed us, “Their grasping power or capacity to be introduced to new things without anxiety reduces significantly. Kids can also experience social awkwardness and then, they don’t open up easily.”
People said that the woman should be grateful to the poster, but they were more worried about how the restrictions would impact the child’s mental health
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