Relationships should be built on trust and honesty, and in a perfect world, nobody would ever be insecure or doubt their partner. But this isn’t an ideal reality and unfortunately, everyone brings at least a little bit of baggage to theirrelationship.
What’s worse is if the relationship is in its early stages and onepartnercan’t stop getting caught up in their past insecurities. That’s probably when you know things are doomed. This is what happened to one couple who were in a short-lived 3-week relationship.
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Guy wonders if he’s overreacting for thinking of breaking up with his GF of 3 weeks after she kept questioning him about his income and divorce status
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Divorced guy who dated a woman for 3 weeks said that she often told him he was being defensive about his divorce or asked why he was still living with his brother
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After a lot of pestering, he decided to show her his divorce certificate, but was not comfortable displaying his tax return; he even wondered if he should end the relationship
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The poster also mentioned that despite constantly clarifying everything with her, she always felt he was being “dishonest”
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Being faced with these kinds of doubts and having to prove yourself again and again to your partner can be exhausting to cope with
The poster is a 32-year-old man who has been divorced since 2020. He has been in the dating game for 1.5 years and was in two serious relationships. None of his previous partners tried to probe about his money or divorce. But, when he began dating a 29-year-old woman, he realized that she would often get tooseriousand begin questioning him.
She found it sketchy that no public information was available about his divorce and kept telling him that he was becoming defensive about it. She even questioned why he would consider himselffinanciallystable if he was rooming with his 25-year-old brother. The woman stated that she did not want to play games and needed to be with someone who she could spend her life with.
Research oninsecurities in relationshipsshows that one partner’s internalized negative thoughts can get turned outward onto the other partner. This can manifest in jealousy, rage, and even paranoia. When that happens, it can create a difficult dynamic and lead to arguments. The other partner might feel confused and lost in the relationship.
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According toHarley Therapy, “sometimes we think we are doubting the partner we are with, but really we are assuming certain things about our present relationship based on past experience.” This is probably what was going on in his ex-girlfriend’s mind as well. It’s likely that she brought a lot of past baggage along that caused her to doubt the man.
A good relationship can only thrive if both partners trust each other andcommunicate. When someone doubts their significant other, they should let themselves be vulnerable and share their insecurities with the other person. This can help strengthen their connection, and both partners will feel heard and understood.
Netizens found it hilarious that the woman had mentioned that she didn’t want to play games yet she was the only one playing games
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