But with her firstborn, Reddit userSuccessfulWeb3586used the opportunity to commemorate her deceased father and named her son after him.
However, in aposton the subreddit ‘Am I the [Jerk]?’, the woman wrote that her “very opinionated” mother-in-law was really unhappy with this decision, and the two of them quickly got into a heated argument.
This woman named her first child after her deceased father with whom she had a very strong connection
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Vicki Broadbent ofHonest Mumthinks there’s nothing wrong with suggesting parents names for their babies, but they should remain just that, suggestions
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According to Broadbent, everything boils down to the simple rule: it’s your child, so it’s also your choice. “In my case, my sons had the final say on my daughter’s name, so older siblings can be involved, too of course,” the author ofMumboss(UK) andThe Working Mom(US and Canada) added.
Indeed, I doubt there is a couple who, immediately after welcoming their child into the world, wants to spend time justifying the name they have chosen for their little bundle of joy.
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In-law tensions hit women the hardest
Sadly, there are many more women who are having similar problems as the author of this Reddit post.
According to a study of hundreds of families over two decades, more than 60 percent of women admitted their relationship with their female in-law caused them long-term unhappiness and stress.
Psychologist Dr. Terri Apter, who carried out the research for her bookWhat Do You Want From Me?, found that two-thirds of daughters-in-law believed that their husband’s mother frequently exhibited jealous, maternal love towards their sons.
A substantial portion of these conflicts have their roots in the mother/son relationship, which contains an element of romance in a way that a mother and daughter bond does not, Aptersaid. “This unique dynamic can trigger competition when another woman becomes the new closest kin,” the psychologist explained.
However, as we learned from this particular story, these things often further divide the family and don’t really help anybody.
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When moms and dads feel that their close people are undermining their authority as parents, Vicki Broadbent suggests calmly explaining to them your preferences face-to-face and avoiding addressing the matter via email or text as tone can be lost over these channels.
“If conversations become heated, arranging a family meeting with an objective mediator might be best,” Broadbent added.
People said the new mom was completely within her rights to put the lady in her place
A few people did say that the original poster was being a jerk, but only jokingly
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