Weddings are a beautiful celebration of love, commitment, and… boundary testing, apparently. You know how it goes: the moment you send out those invites, some people act like you’ve just offered them a golden ticket to Willy Wonka’schocolatefactory. But what happens when someone doesn’t even make the guest list but somehow still manages to RSVP “yes”?
That is what one Redditor had to deal with when planning herwedding, having to uninvite her dad’s cousin from the event, probably 12 times, and she still didn’t get the message.
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One bride finds herself dealing with an overbearing relative, ready to crash the wedding despite constantly telling her she is not on the guest list
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The bride and her family tell the cousin repeatedly that she is not invited to the wedding, but she keeps trying to get an invite and even books a hotel close to the venue
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The OP (original poster) was planning a dreamy, intimate destinationwedding. The couple carefully curated their guest list to fit within the venue’s strict capacity. But one family member, the bride’s dad’s cousin, saw this as just a suggestion. She pestered, begged, and even weaseled her way through the RSVP process, completely ignoring the word “no” like it was written in invisible ink.
Even after the bride’s parents repeatedly explained that the guest list was maxed out, this cousin wouldn’t let it go. Months later, when thebrideand her mom arrived to prep for the wedding, they made the mistake of agreeing to a pre-wedding dinner with the cousin and her husband. It was meant to be a peace offering, but instead, it opened Pandora’s Box.
After dinner, the cousin casually announced that she and her husband had booked ahotelin town for the entire weekend. Coincidence? Not a chance. Suddenly, the bride was dealing with an uninvited guest who began following her and her family around, inserting herself into every reunion and pre-wedding festivity. I don’t know about you, but I’d be fed up at that point. And so was our bride.
If guilt-tripping starts, hold your ground and remember—their feelings are not your responsibility. For the particularly persistent ones, enlist a trusted family member to act as a buffer. After all, it’s your big day, not a group project!
Despite being repeatedly told that she wasn’t invited to the wedding, the cousin and her husband showed up to the rehearsal dinner, dressed to the nines and ready to party. She even made the rounds, pleading with guests to let her stand outside the venue and “just watch through the windows.”
At this point, the bride’sbrotherhad had enough. Channeling his inner bouncer, he laid down the law and told her to leave. Thankfully, she finally got the message and didn’t crash the wedding because planning a destination wedding is already hard enough, even without having to deal with uninvited guests.
To avoid such situations altogether, consider posting a friendly reminder about your guest list on your wedding website or social media ahead of time. Above all, focus on enjoying your day with the people you intentionally invited.
We wanted to know how couples can make their destination wedding more inclusive for guests who may not be able to travel. Ungurean suggests considering live-streaming the ceremony so that people who can’t attend can be part of the celebration from afar.
You could also host a post-wedding reception in your hometown or send out personalized gift packages with mementos from your wedding destination. These thoughtful gestures allow everyone to feel connected to your celebration, even if they can’t physically be there.
We asked Ungurean which strategies she recommends for couples to enforce a strict guest list while planning an intimate, destination wedding. She told us that creating a truly intimate destination wedding starts with a thoughtfully crafted invitation that highlights your goal for a small, meaningful gathering. Consider using a wedding website to share your story and clarify why the guest list is limited.
“Reach out personally to your closest circle to help them understand your vision. Remember, this is your special day—focus on including those who truly matter most to you,” Ungurean suggests.
So, how would you handle an uninvited guest who refuses to take no for an answer? Share your thoughts and stories below!
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